How Do You Ask Women Out on a Date?

October 19, 2012
How Do You Ask Women Out on a Date?

Reader Question:

How do you ask women out on a date?

-Lisa

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

It’s always hard to muster the courage to ask a romantic interest out on a date, no matter your gender or your sexual orientation. My suggestion is to keep the invitation and event very informal at the beginning while you gauge their interest level.

Too much formal romantic courting — like dinner in a candle-lit restaurant — can put a lot of pressure on your friendship and can set you up for a big disappointment. Instead, suggest going together to a group activity, such as a community service event or a concert or festival.

This will allow for lots of distraction to funnel your nervousness into and you’ll get a chance to see if you two really get along. As far as “how” to ask. Do it in person or on the phone. It shows you are brave and confident, and it allows you to read more into her answer than you would via text.


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Dr. Wendy Walsh is the author of "The 30-Day Love Detox"" (April 2013). Connect with her on Google+.

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1 Response

    I always hear this advice. Like on a firrst date don’t put too much pressure on the other person and invite them to an informal setting and go with a group of friends or something. Worst advice is texting someone to do something formal. I got that. so unattracive and just felt so less romantic…wasn’t worth it but running into the guy out and about, awkward.

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