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|Dr. Wendy Walsh • 9/25/14|
My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year. There is one major issue: her coming out to her family. In the beginning, I was fine with it since I understand the coming-out process is hard.
She said she can’t see herself claiming to be bisexual or lesbian because she just doesn’t know. She also told me we were fighting a lot recently and she doesn’t want to come out to her parents and then look like a fool in front of them if we break up. I think she needs to figure things out, but I’m not sure what my role should be in this.
What are your thoughts?
This is a tough one. One of the imperfect trends in our culture is, now that gay has become accepted, bisexual people (a larger group, in my opinion) are forced to self-identify with one group or the other.
I’m sure she feels very confused. While I don’t have a clear answer for you, I do have a few questions that might help you make a decision:
1. Why is it so important to you that she come out to her family? Would that validate your own sexual identity? Do you feel insecure in the relationship because she is “hiding” you from important people? Are there other things she can do to help you feel more secure?
2. What are you guys really fighting about lately? Is she trying to create drama to underscore her confused feelings? Are you starting things because you feel resentful?
So what should you do now? Talk out all these questions together.
You might be surprised by what you learn about yourself and your relationship.
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