When is it OK to Stay the Night for the First Time?

October 2, 2012
When is it OK to Stay the Night for the First Time?

The only time it is ever appropriate to invite yourself over to a date’s place for a sleepover is if you’ve had way too many tequila sunrises and should not be operating a motor vehicle. Then, and only then, do you have permission to ask if it’s OK to crash on their couch.

If they say no, call a cab. If they say yes, they better get you a nice blanket, some pillows and definitely not try any funny business (you’re drunk, remember?). Otherwise, like any proper lady, it’s customary to wait for an invitation.

By inviting yourself over, it makes you look kind of desperate and, in not so many words, you’re pretty much saying, “Let’s have sex tonight!” When you finally get that long-awaited request for the pleasure of your company, keep in mind the morning-after etiquette.

A sleepover doesn’t equal marriage. Be aware of how your date’s acting and if there is a leisurely breakfast in your near future or if they are trying to kick you out, so they can get to work. Either way, good luck!

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Fla. She holds a Bachelor of Science in Journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at karapound.com.

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1 Response

  1. Haha, I read this one-night too late!! Good advice if you can get a girl to read this BEFORE the tequila sunrises.

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