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The Short Version: With compassion and encouragement, Ronnie Joy supports mature daters as they re-enter the dating world. At age 52, Ronnie became a certified soul coach and motivational speaker because she saw a trend of singles her age feeling unsure how to date in modern society. Having met her second husband on a dating site, Ronnie felt uniquely suited to teach midlife daters how to write a dating profile, meet new people, and become a date magnet. Through one-on-one coaching, group workshops, speaking events, and wardrobe consults, she guides her clients to feel more confident and courageous when looking for a date online and in person. Ronnie’s in-depth life coaching brings clarity to the love lives of singles over 40 years old.
Ronnie Joy, a certified life coach, is the type of person who can turn any challenge into a success story. In 2000, divorced after 26 years of marriage, she desired a change in her life, and she went after it with gusto. At age 52, she moved from Connecticut to California in search of a new beginning.
“Several years went by, and I gained my single sea legs,” she said in her bio. “I established a sense of who I was.”
Though Ronnie felt ready for a committed relationship, finding a mature partner presented her with quite a challenge. So she made a conscious effort to make herself available at coffee shops, bookstores, markets, and online. After some dating mishaps and learning experiences, she met an incredible man named Jack on a dating site.
Three years later, she was happily married and deeply thankful for the life experiences that brought her where she believed she was truly meant to be. She wanted to help others in her generation find the same sense of confidence and well-being, so she began life coaching mature singles in the San Francisco Bay Area.
“I noticed a theme of older people — divorced, widowed, or never been married — looking for love, but it was very daunting for them,” she remembered. “I knew this was a need I could help these singles with, and I became a midlife dating coach to help.”
Ronnie is a life coach focused on inspiring and advising singles over 40. Her typical client is “retired but still thriving” — someone who is commitment-oriented but uncertain how to proceed in the modern dating environment. Ronnie’s mission is to embolden mature daters to reach their relationship goals by working with them to create a personalized dating game plan.
“My style is to ask the right questions and really listen to the answers,” she said. “With that, I give my own advice and suggestions intuitively, and I apply my own life experiences as well.”
With a sympathetic ear, Ronnie seeks to get to the core of who a person is to help them feel centered, confident, and loved. She connects with her clients on an emotional level and listens to their worries, joys, and desires with an open heart.
Her varied coaching services offer individual assistance as well as group workshops. She prefers meeting in person at her Oakland or Lafayette offices, but she can also conduct a coaching session via phone call or Skype. Emphasizing self-reflection and authenticity, she walks her clients through online dating as well as “dating in the wild” — which is what she calls in-person dating.
Additionally, Ronnie shares her expertise by presenting at speaking events across the country. Through these engaging talks, she spreads her message of hope and empowerment to midlife singles. Ronnie connects with audiences by injecting her coaching with real-life personal stories. In her co-authored book, “Come Out of Hiding and Shine,” she uses her own emotional journey to show readers how they can overcome adversity and find self-worth in their lives.
“Your most important relationship is with yourself,” she said. “I want my clients to feel ready to date, know what they want, and have strategies for dating online and in the wild.”
Through personal coaching, group workshops, wardrobe makeovers, and guided visual meditation, Ronnie employs a variety of supportive techniques to help daters live courageously and joyfully.
The life coach’s six-session program ushers singles through the important aspects of online dating, such as profile photos and messaging strategy, to bring more clarity to this modern way to meet people.
Her approach is comprehensive and personalized to her clients. She offers insightful dating tips to make any dating profile more attractive by reviewing the photos and content while providing an overall assessment of negative dating patterns that could be holding a person back.
“A lot of people come to me because they realize they’re repeating the same patterns of behavior,” Ronnie said, “and ending up in relationships that fail.”
You can call Ronnie at (510) 336-0904 to receive a complimentary consult and see if her interpersonal coaching style appeals to you.
Group workshop attendees benefit from meeting singles like themselves and gain a support system. In an interactive setting, Ronnie guides discussions about dating struggles and victories to show midlife singles they aren’t alone.
Her Dating In the Wild Group Workshop runs for two hours and encourages people to meet potential dates in everyday places like grocery stores and coffee shops.
A health crisis can reveal a person’s character and test their priorities in life. In June 2016, Ronnie was diagnosed with breast cancer, and the ensuing struggle gave her a newfound perspective on life. “There was this small voice saying, ‘You need to help singles who have gone through this,'” she told us. “It’s a cause that very much speaks to my heart.”
Now cancer-free, Ronnie has determined to put her experience to good use by offering coaching services for singles recovering from cancer or other serious illnesses.
With this new service, she will address a need ignored by mainstream dating coaches — namely, how do you date after a cancer diagnosis? It’s a unique challenge that she feels motivated to take on. From dealing with body insecurity to finding ways to talk about health issues with a date, Ronnie hopes to help build the emotional well-being of someone who has battled against a serious illness.
Over the years, Ronnie has worked with hundreds of singles ranging in age from 40 to 80. Glowing client testimonials speak to the personal bonds Ronnie forms with her clients and the emotional transformation she helps them achieve.
“We are engaged to get married!” wrote one former client named Carol C. “Focusing on myself first made all the difference… it allowed me to relax and present a happy, confident, strong, and fun side.”
“Ronnie is a true gem: warm, bright, and caring and, at the same time, savvy about the pursuit of success that lies ahead. Her guidance is invaluable in helping to identify goals, strategies, and focus.” — one of Ronnie Joy’s satisfied clients
Sometimes a subtle shift in attitude is all it takes to energize a person and rejuvenate their love lives. Ronnie loves opening people up to new possibilities and empowering them to feel whole and happy — which makes them more attractive in the dating world.
“Our first meeting was yesterday, and I thought about what you had said: Be yourself,” a client wrote to Ronnie about a new love interest. “He gets me — there was good chemistry, and I will see him again.”
For singles of a certain age, dating seems like an intimidating proposition. Maybe you lost the confidence of youth, maybe you don’t understand how dating websites work, or maybe you just don’t know how to signal your availability to people your age. Sometimes a sympathetic ear and an encouraging push is all you need to feel strong enough to start dating again.
Ronnie Joy knows what it’s like to start over and make the best of whatever life throws at you. She offers her life experience and wisdom to singles over 40 in hopes of changing their lives for the better.
Through coaching sessions, group workshops, and speaking gigs, Ronnie reaches out to an overlooked community in the dating scene and shows them how to live with purpose and vigor.
“I think you have to be courageous to re-enter the dating world,” she said. “Your desire has to be stronger than your fear.”
Much of what makes Ronnie such an inspiring figure is that she leads by example. Her own life is a testament to the power of one’s inner spirit to overcome obstacles in life. With sensitivity, insight, and passion, she guides singles through online dating and coaches people to find love by first believing that they are worthy of love.