A Compassionate Blog Advising Mature Singles About Online Dating

Senior Dating A Compassionate Blog Advising Mature Singles About Online Dating

Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews • 9/20/16

The Short Version: is a comprehensive dating resource and blog for singles in their golden years. When returning to the dating scene after being divorced or widowed, mature daters may find online dating to be a challenge, and that’s why Kathy Damer started a blog to assist people in search of companionship or love. On, she writes thoughtful responses to questions emailed to her about senior romance and dating websites. Kathy’s empathetic and expert guidance helps readers better understand online dating in the 21st century.

In her late 50s, Jane married a man she loved deeply, thinking they would spend the rest of their lives side by side, content in each other’s company. However, within only two years, he had the first of a series of strokes that would slowly take away everything that made him the man she loved.

Jane stood by him for seven years and watched, helpless, as his health deteriorated. After the fifth stroke, when he no longer recognized his own wife, he was placed in a nursing facility because she could no longer care for him by herself.

Now alone in their home, Jane found solace with a widower she met online. They talked every evening about the pain of losing someone dear to them, and while their conversation comforted her, she felt conflicted about an in-person relationship — after all, she was still a married woman.

She was at a crossroads with no idea what the right thing to do would be, so she wrote in to for help.

Photo of Kathy Damer, Founder of

While working in a retirement community, Kathy Damer saw the issues facing senior daters.

“You still have needs that are important to you,” Kathy Damer, the site’s Founder, wrote back. “You are still full of life, and you are entitled to happiness.” She encouraged Jane to follow her heart and think about what her husband would want for her.

On her blog, Kathy advises many seniors, like Jane, who write in with unique concerns and challenges — particularly in regards to online dating. offers emotional support and expert advice to anyone seeking companionship or romance online. Kathy, who writes for and runs the site herself, doesn’t focus on just one aspect of senior dating, but covers everything from how to spot scammers to how to tell your adult children you’re ready to date again.

“I prefer to maintain a more rounded approach to my content,” she explained to us. “I try to be as positive as possible.”

Kathy Damer’s Story: A “People Person” Became a Dating Authority

Kathy is an unabashed “people person” — she loves talking with others and creating strong bonds with them. She got her degree in sociology because she’s interested in people and how they interact.

In 2002, she became a marketing executive in the retirement and senior care industry, working five to six days a week to get to know the people better. “Much to my delight, I developed these incredible bonds with many of the residents who lived in the community,” she said.

Kathy made fast friends and soon had visitors coming to her every day for advice about their relationship or family issues. To her surprise, she found a lot of romance and drama can go on in retirement communities, and she felt seniors needed some assistance with dating, especially with the rise of online dating.

Screenshot of homepage is a trusted dating resource for seniors with questions about online dating.

Based on her firsthand experience working with seniors, she decided to build her own website,, to be a hub of insightful do’s and don’ts for mature people dating in the modern age.

“For me, it was the most rewarding experience. They were my second family,” Kathy said compassionately. “We are all aging whether we like it or not — so I have a whole new respect and appreciation for our aging.”

Each Article is Based on a Real Person’s Question

People from all over the world visit in search of guidance. A majority of the audience tends to range from their late 50s to early 80s, but Kathy said there are some adult children who want to help their senior parent(s) date.

Kathy lets her readership influence and direct the topics of her posts. She writes articles as responses to the questions and concerns she finds in her inbox. She encourages her readers to shoot her an email, using the contact form, any time.

“Dear Kathy, thank you for your advice…. You are really providing a much-needed service by giving advice.” — Fred W., a reader of

“Sometimes I get some really interesting letters — and some real heartbreaking ones, too,” she said. “My site’s content comes from the readers themselves. The emails I get dictate the articles I write.”

The positive responses Kathy receives every day inspires her to keep writing articles and expanding the site.

“Senior dating has really taken off, as evidenced by the amount of feedback I get on my site,” she explained, “so things have just grown naturally over the years.”

Mature Readers Find Common-Sense Tips on How to Date Online

Kathy meets a demand among older generations for good, grounded advice about online dating. provides safety tips for arranging a first meeting as well as senior dating conversational no-nos to make online dating less intimidating. For years, she’s been the sole contributor running the site on sheer passion and know-how (with the occasional tech support from her husband).

The key is empathy, she said. “You try to imagine yourself facing the problem and how you would react — being empathetic,” she explained. “I believe the best answers come from putting myself in their shoes and approaching each situation from the heart.”

“I hear from a number of people who share their online dating success stories, which is very satisfying and proves that online dating can actually work.” — Kathy Damer, Founder of

In well-reasoned articles, she talks directly to her readers as though she were advising a friend. She takes an interest in the well-being and happiness of her readership, and that consideration shines through in her writing.

“I will often ask them to keep in touch because I genuinely want their situation to improve,” Kathy said. She doesn’t publish all her correspondence with seniors, maintaining a certain level of discretion, but she always answers anyone who comes to her for help.

Kathy Paves the Way to Love (at Any Age) for Her Readers

For mature singles, dating can be complicated. Sometimes there are adult children involved or privacy concerns — or sometimes a health-related issue might be holding someone back from having a truly fulfilling relationship. Kathy set out to simplify that great unknown with, and the feedback has been largely positive.

“I hear from a number of people who share their online dating success stories,” Kathy told us, “which is very satisfying and proves that online dating can actually work.”

Thanks to Kathy’s blog, senior daters can learn more about online dating so they’re ready to log in and start flirting. On the site, singles find steadfast encouragement to guide them through every step of the romance. Whether you’re hesitant to plunge back into love because of a difficult situation (like Jane’s) or you’re worried about encountering scammers online, can help.

“I love running the site and am very passionate about it,” she said. “The feedback I get makes it all worthwhile.”