What’s the secret of a great relationship? A new study suggests the most successful pairings are grounded in shared friendship first and passion second.
Published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, the study found sharing a strong friendship with your partner is the best way to ensure a powerful, lasting commitment.
The study also found couples who valued their shared friendship also enjoyed their sex lives more than couples who primarily saw their partner as a vehicle for meeting their intimacy needs.
“Sharing a strong friendship is the best way
to ensure a powerful, lasting commitment.”
Individuals and couples who were primarily interested in finding someone to settle their personal desires experienced less satisfaction and a lowered chance for a lasting bond than individuals and couples interested in finding a true partner.
The study’s lead author, Laura VanderDrift, of Purdue University in Indiana, noted:
“Romantic relationships are, at their core, friendships. As such, it may be the case that valuing that aspect of the relationship fortifies the romantic relationship…and serves as a buffer against breaking up,” she said.
“The results indicate that valuing the friendship aspect of a romantic relationship is important to relationship quality. It seems likely placing greater importance on the friendship component of the relationship relative to other components (e.g. sex) may promote lasting relationships.”
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