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Amber Brooks is the Editor-in-Chief at DatingAdvice.com. When she was growing up, her family teased her for being "boy crazy," but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating and relationship expert. As an English major at the University of Florida, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about a variety of subjects. Now with over 1,800 lifestyle articles to her name, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to DatingAdvice.com. She has been quoted by the Washington Times, Cosmopolitan, The New York Post, and AskMen, among others.
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Lillian Castro
Lillian Castro,Senior Editor
Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.
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Let’s talk about sex, baby! Here you’ll find topics related to sexual intimacy and relationships. Our articles cover how couples can improve their sex lives in a safe and healthy way and how singles can explore sex and dating.
In the words of Lady Danbury, are you taking care of your garden, Violet? Well, if, like Violet, you’re doing a shabby job at it, our experts can help.
In our articles, our experts have open and judgment-free conversations about sexual wellness and how that may look in every stage of dating. Whether you want to learn about sexual boundaries or compatibility, our articles touch on every aspect of the sexual experience.
Learn how prioritizing trust, communication, and understanding can play a role in helping you establish a better sex life.
Our experts have also reviewed various sex apps and platforms that support casual hookups, sexting, and exploration, so you can know what works for you and what doesn’t. The sexual experience is different for everyone, and we cover all fantasies, kinks, and fetishes between consenting adults. Just real talk about real desires.
Dr. Frankie Bashan is a renowned relationship coach and dating expert. She is a licensed clinical psychologist with nearly two decades of experience working with couples and individuals and specialized training in the field of trauma. Dr. Frankie is the CEO & Founder of LittleGayBook.com, which focuses on personalized matchmaking for lesbians and bisexual women, and has successfully connected couples across the United States for the last 16 years. Dr. Frankie has appeared as a love expert on MTV's "Are You the One," and she's given a TED Talk on fluidity.
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"No unicorn hunters!" You may have seen this written on dating app bios — and indeed, I've seen clients come to me dejected because they feel like they'll never be able to fulfill their threesome fantasies.
In some cases, they feel rejected or like their desire to have a queer sexual experience with a woman in a threesome is invalidated.
In reality, people's disinterest in being "unicorns"...
Lynn Cadet is an experienced writer and research analyst specializing in relationship and consumer behavior trends. She leverages data-driven insights and comprehensive survey analysis to deliver evidence-based guidance for modern daters. With a strong foundation in research methodology and a commitment to accuracy, Lynn translates complex findings into practical advice, helping readers make informed decisions in their pursuit of meaningful connections. She holds a bachelor's degree from the University of Florida.
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More than 1 in 3 Gen Z adults identify themselves as celibate, according to The State of Us: National Study on Modern Love & Dating in 2025, a survey conducted by DatingAdvice.com in partnership with the Kinsey Institute.
This finding reflects not only a growing cultural trend but also a burgeoning paradigm shift in the dating landscape among young people. Gen Z adults, currently between the ages of 18 and 25,...
Lynn Cadet is an experienced writer and research analyst specializing in relationship and consumer behavior trends. She leverages data-driven insights and comprehensive survey analysis to deliver evidence-based guidance for modern daters. With a strong foundation in research methodology and a commitment to accuracy, Lynn translates complex findings into practical advice, helping readers make informed decisions in their pursuit of meaningful connections. She holds a bachelor's degree from the University of Florida.
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While social media and dating apps may tout a perception of sexual openness and positivity, the “everyone’s having sex” stereotype may be nothing more than just a stereotype.
More than one in five (22%) surveyed U.S. adults say they have never had partnered sex, with younger adults leading the tide, according to The State of Us: National Study on Modern Love & Dating in 2025, a survey conducted in...
Amber Brooks is the Editor-in-Chief at DatingAdvice.com. When she was growing up, her family teased her for being "boy crazy," but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating and relationship expert. As an English major at the University of Florida, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about a variety of subjects. Now with over 1,800 lifestyle articles to her name, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to DatingAdvice.com. She has been quoted as a dating expert by The Washington Times, Cosmopolitan, The New York Post, Bustle, Salon, Well+Good, and AskMen.
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Psychology tells us that introducing novelty can help boost satisfaction and rekindle passion in long-term relationships. In fact, a break from old routines can trigger the same areas of the brain as the early stages of romance, releasing a similar neurological sensation.
But what are practical ways to inject this key ingredient into your love life? Supposedly, any type of new and exciting activity or...
Dr. Gloria Brame has a Ph.D. in human sexuality. She is a board certified sexologist best known for her books "Different Loving" and "The Truth About Sex", which promote evidence-based, pro-diversity perspectives on human sexuality. She has given live-radio and television interviews with BBC, CBS, NBC, FOX, and PBS. Find her at gloriabrame.com.
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You'd like to enjoy some kink in your life. Perhaps you've always had these desires or are curious about exploring them for the first time with someone special.
The practical reality of starting that conversation is daunting. When is the right moment to tell someone new? How do you introduce a long-term partner to kink? And, most importantly, how can you navigate it without shame?
As a sex therapist...
Sheena Holt comes to DatingAdvice with a BA in English and creative writing. Sheena's work has appeared in numerous literary and culture publications, including Lithium Magazine and Bayou Magazine. As Managing Editor for DatingAdvice.com, she has interviewed hundreds of dating professionals and relationship experts. Sheena also enjoys writing long-form fiction in her spare time to keep her storytelling skills sharp.
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When’s the right time to sleep with a new partner? This age-old question has fostered heated debate among dating coaches, religious organizations, and friend groups alike.
But for some people, the answer is simple: Never.
Celibacy — avoiding sex and sometimes romantic attachment — is not new. Some people have always chosen to remain unpartnered, whether through a formal organization that forbids...
Sheena Holt comes to DatingAdvice with a BA in English and creative writing. Sheena's work has appeared in numerous literary and culture publications, including Lithium Magazine and Bayou Magazine. As Managing Editor for DatingAdvice.com, she has interviewed hundreds of dating professionals and relationship experts. Sheena also enjoys writing long-form fiction in her spare time to keep her storytelling skills sharp.
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The “Sex and the City” franchise is powerful as an exploration of careers, friendship, and personality (as lifestyle journalists, all of us at DatingAdvice are naturally Carries). It shines in its honest depiction of the sex lives of independent and successful women.
The four main characters of “Sex and the City” — Carrie, Miranda, Samantha, and Charlotte — all have dramatically different relationships with sex...
Sheena Holt comes to DatingAdvice with a BA in English and creative writing. Sheena's work has appeared in numerous literary and culture publications, including Lithium Magazine and Bayou Magazine. As Managing Editor for DatingAdvice.com, she has interviewed hundreds of dating professionals and relationship experts. Sheena also enjoys writing long-form fiction in her spare time to keep her storytelling skills sharp.
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One of my favorite TV shows is “Sex Education." It’s a heartwarming show about the bright and empathetic son of a sex therapist, who, along with his crush, makes money giving sex advice to his quirky and colorfully dressed classmates.
But most of the time, what everyone needs is a healthy dose of emotional guidance and, as the show’s title suggests, sex education. “Sex Education” brilliantly represents all the...
Chloë Hylkema has covered hundreds of people, services, and ideas in the dating and lifestyle sphere, all explored through the lens of making dating enjoyable. She has earned her bachelor's degree in English from Emory University and worked on animal rights advocacy issues and research in the past. Chloë is passionate about delivering readers the information and resources they need to forge conscious and self-realized connections. When she’s not writing, you can find her cooking a vegan feast or at the climbing gym.
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The Short Version: Your burning questions about sex deserve answers. That’s where Beducated comes in. The online platform offers guides, courses, and videos about all things sex and sexuality, with a strong foundation in pleasure-based comprehensive sex education.
If you want to have better sex, whether that means more empowered sex, more pleasurable sex, or more connected sex– you’ve got to educate yourself...
Chloë Hylkema has covered hundreds of people, services, and ideas in the dating and lifestyle sphere, all explored through the lens of making dating enjoyable. She has earned her bachelor's degree in English from Emory University and worked on animal rights advocacy issues and research in the past. Chloë is passionate about delivering readers the information and resources they need to forge conscious and self-realized connections. When she’s not writing, you can find her cooking a vegan feast or at the climbing gym.
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The Short Version: Flure is a dating app for safely exploring your kinks and desires. The new Dream Matches feature ensures you’ll never miss a great match all while making the online casual dating process simple, engaging, and meaningful.
On Flure, it’s your rules, your fantasies, and your likes: Everything happens at your pace. The sex-positive dating app embraces fun and play as central aspects of the online...
Emma has been a professional writer for nearly a decade now. She has a degree in English and Creative Writing from Fredonia State University. Her background in satirical journalism and human interest content helps her approach the dating world with humor and heart. She has gotten her byline featured on Tasting Table, Boredom Therapy, Her Moments, and Eternally Sunny, among other media outlets. When she’s not writing, she’s either reading, watching a movie, or losing at bar trivia.
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The Short Version: Dr. Mindy DeSeta’s distinct background as a sexologist with connections to the sex product industry gives her insight into the mental and physical aspects of sex. With her help, talking about sex — to yourself, your partner, and even your kids — can be an emotionally fulfilling experience.
In many households, sex is a taboo topic. Honestly, I can understand why. It’s the epitome of intimacy and...
Mackenzie Buck is an experienced writer who earned a master's degree with distinction from the University of Manchester. Her relationship advice has been featured on the New York Post, and she has contributed stories to US News & World Report. She has worn a variety of hats in the digital marketing space over the years and is excited to bring her unique voice and storytelling chops to DatingAdvice.
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Some of us dream about the kind of romance that musicians write songs about. You know, the kind that fills all the mental space in your head and leaves you blasting "Linger" by The Cranberries with the melodrama of lovestruck teenagers (OK, maybe the last one is just me).
But not everyone wants a full-on love story. Some of us just want to get railed all the way to next Tuesday, and that’s fun,...
Emma has been a professional writer for nearly a decade now. She has a degree in English and Creative Writing from Fredonia State University. Her background in satirical journalism and human interest content helps her approach the dating world with humor and heart. She has gotten her byline featured on Tasting Table, Boredom Therapy, Her Moments, and Eternally Sunny, among other media outlets. When she’s not writing, she’s either reading, watching a movie, or losing at bar trivia.
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The Short Version: Years of chastity can make married life difficult for some LDS women to get used to. This is why Amanda Louder, a sex coach with a personal background in the LDS faith, has dedicated her career to helping Christian women overcome shame and sexual repression.
My parents didn’t preach abstinence because of religion, though we did go to my hometown’s Roman Catholic church every Sunday. They...
Chloë Hylkema has covered hundreds of people, services, and ideas in the dating and lifestyle sphere, all explored through the lens of making dating enjoyable. She has earned her bachelor's degree in English from Emory University and worked on animal rights advocacy issues and research in the past. Chloë is passionate about delivering readers the information and resources they need to forge conscious and self-realized connections. When she’s not writing, you can find her cooking a vegan feast or at the climbing gym.
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The Short Version: Sex coach Stacie Ysidro thinks that harnessing the power of your sexuality is the deepest way to transform your life. Stacie talked to us about sex coaching, self-actualized experiences of sexuality, and how Erotic Blueprints™ can illuminate how you experience pleasure.
Growing up, we never talked about sex. Sex was almost a bad word, but not quite. The not-so-subtle and confusing messaging I...
Amber Brooks is the Editor-in-Chief at DatingAdvice.com. When she was growing up, her family teased her for being "boy crazy," but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating and relationship expert. As an English major at the University of Florida, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about a variety of subjects. Now with over 1,800 lifestyle articles to her name, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to DatingAdvice.com. She has been quoted as a dating expert by The Washington Times, Cosmopolitan, The New York Post, Bustle, Salon, Well+Good, and AskMen.
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I’ll admit I’ve gone down a TikTok rabbit hole and found myself in an erotic corner of the web known as Spicy BookTok. One moment I was happily swiping on reviews about “Fourth Wing,” and the next I had enough sexually explicit book recommendations to fill up my library card quota.
Spicy BookTok started as a small community for booklovers looking for a naughty read. But its popularity has me wondering: How...
Mackenzie Buck is an experienced writer who earned a master's degree with distinction from the University of Manchester. Her relationship advice has been featured on the New York Post, and she has contributed stories to US News & World Report. She has worn a variety of hats in the digital marketing space over the years and is excited to bring her unique voice and storytelling chops to DatingAdvice.
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The first time casual sex was brought to my attention, I was a freshman in college and still on my religious high horse (but slowly teetering). While waiting in a doctor’s office one day, I begrudgingly picked up a magazine and came across an article where a young woman was talking about her preference for casual sex. She was in medical school and didn’t have time for a serious commitment.
I crinkled my nose...
Amber Brooks is the Editor-in-Chief at DatingAdvice.com. When she was growing up, her family teased her for being "boy crazy," but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating and relationship expert. As an English major at the University of Florida, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about a variety of subjects. Now with over 1,800 lifestyle articles to her name, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to DatingAdvice.com. She has been quoted as a dating expert by The Washington Times, Cosmopolitan, The New York Post, Bustle, Salon, Well+Good, and AskMen.
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Mothers around the world urge their children to take things slow. Walk, don’t run. Consider carefully, and weigh your options. Well, adults don’t always have that kind of time. Sometimes we want something now, on demand, one-day shipping, please!
Finding your next hookup isn’t technically an emergency, but if you’re bored, lonely, or just plain horny, it can certainly feel like one. Fortunately, tons of hookup...
Mackenzie Buck is an experienced writer who earned a master's degree with distinction from the University of Manchester. Her relationship advice has been featured on the New York Post, and she has contributed stories to US News & World Report. She has worn a variety of hats in the digital marketing space over the years and is excited to bring her unique voice and storytelling chops to DatingAdvice.
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The year 2011 was interesting for the cultural zeitgeist. Adele was reaching mega-stardom by setting fire to the rain, the Harry Potter films were coming to their devastating end (I’m personally still recovering from this), and, most importantly, romcoms were shaping the modern dating landscape.
Movies like Just Go With It, Something Borrowed, and Crazy, Stupid, Love are fan faves I wouldn’t dare fail to...
Emma has been a professional writer for nearly a decade now. She has a degree in English and Creative Writing from Fredonia State University. Her background in satirical journalism and human interest content helps her approach the dating world with humor and heart. She has gotten her byline featured on Tasting Table, Boredom Therapy, Her Moments, and Eternally Sunny, among other media outlets. When she’s not writing, she’s either reading, watching a movie, or losing at bar trivia.
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The Short Version: A sex counselor with a doctorate in human sexuality, Dr. Martha Tara Lee has been guiding clients through sexual issues for 15 years. At Eros Coaching, she’s heard it all, from “shameful” physical intimacy hang-ups to hidden emotional roadblocks. Dr. Martha helps clients by explaining what they need in a candid, straightforward way. She teaches clients how to express their needs to their partner...
Ashayla Blakely is an experienced storyteller who has been writing for DatingAdvice.com since 2021. She graduated with a bachelor's degree in Telecommunications from the University of Florida. She also earned her MFA in Film Production at Florida State University College of Motion Picture Arts. You can often catch her with a script in her hand, calling out the shots in her many directorial roles on set.
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In high school health class, nothing raised eyebrows more than the word “abstinence.”
You want us — a classroom of hormonal, pubescent teenagers — to say “no way” to sexual activity? Yeah, that’s totally going to happen. Even the health teacher must have known it was a lost cause.
Sexual abstinence means abstaining from sexual activity while dating. Typically, those practicing it are waiting for a...
Amber Brooks is the Editor-in-Chief at DatingAdvice.com. When she was growing up, her family teased her for being "boy crazy," but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating and relationship expert. As an English major at the University of Florida, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about a variety of subjects. Now with over 1,800 lifestyle articles to her name, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to DatingAdvice.com. She has been quoted as a dating expert by The Washington Times, Cosmopolitan, The New York Post, Bustle, Salon, Well+Good, and AskMen.
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While many things can go into finding a casual hookup or a long-term partner, there is one thing that people don’t usually talk about: hair grooming habits. While some people don’t have strong preferences, hair in certain areas can make or break a relationship for others.
We surveyed Americans to find out what their personal grooming habits are, as well as their preferences for their partners’ grooming...
Amber Brooks is the Editor-in-Chief at DatingAdvice.com. When she was growing up, her family teased her for being "boy crazy," but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating and relationship expert. As an English major at the University of Florida, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about a variety of subjects. Now with over 1,800 lifestyle articles to her name, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to DatingAdvice.com. She has been quoted as a dating expert by The Washington Times, Cosmopolitan, The New York Post, Bustle, Salon, Well+Good, and AskMen.
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It seems just about everyone has heard of Adult Friend Finder (AFF). The site's name is everywhere, from online ads to pop culture references. Still, even though so many people have heard about AFF, the platform suffers from a checkered reputation in the rumor mill.
The hookup site is a legitimate platform for people seeking casual encounters. It provides a sexy playground for singles, couples, and groups to...
Chloë Hylkema has covered hundreds of people, services, and ideas in the dating and lifestyle sphere, all explored through the lens of making dating enjoyable. She has earned her bachelor's degree in English from Emory University and worked on animal rights advocacy issues and research in the past. Chloë is passionate about delivering readers the information and resources they need to forge conscious and self-realized connections. When she’s not writing, you can find her cooking a vegan feast or at the climbing gym.
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The Short Version: Sex-positive dating app Flure is bringing modern daters the features they need to make safe and authentic connections. Leah Borovaya, Head Technical Strategist, and Catherine Drysdale, Community Manager, talked to us about the inspiration behind the app and what users can gain from a sex-positive dating experience.
You’ve probably heard the term sex-positivity, but what does it actually...
Sophia Peyser studies English and Creative Writing at Emory University. She has read extensively about dating, written passionately about love, and imparted friends with unsolicited (but well-researched) dating advice. With a background in journalism and content writing, Sophia loves writing about the tools singles can use to ensure both happiness and safety in their relationships.
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The abundance of online dating apps and websites means a service exists for every type of dater. From swiping apps to online sites for affair seekers, the internet has options for relationship seekers and those looking for a fun fling.
While some sites — eharmony and Match, for instance — are better suited for users seeking relationships, plenty of hookup site options appeal to casual daters. Hookup sites...
Mackenzie Buck is an experienced writer who earned a master's degree with distinction from the University of Manchester. Her relationship advice has been featured on the New York Post, and she has contributed stories to US News & World Report. She has worn a variety of hats in the digital marketing space over the years and is excited to bring her unique voice and storytelling chops to DatingAdvice.
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Thanks to modern technology, we can now send memes to friends halfway across the world. We can order hot and fresh food to our doorstep while watching our favorite artists perform live from the comfort of our couches — all with a few taps of a finger.
So, are we surprised that sexting has taken the virtual world by storm? Sexting is popular, and it isn’t going away any time soon.
The ways people...
Cassey blends her background in social and human behavior, along with digital marketing, seamlessly into her writing. With a versatile portfolio spanning Tourism, E-commerce, Tech, Hospitality, and Medical industries, she weaves meaningful narratives that resonate with audiences. Connecting words into sentences is her craft, but Cassey also finds joy in forming genuine connections with people from all walks of life on LinkedIn.
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Let's face it: we're only human, and we all have needs that must be met.
Thankfully, the internet makes it incredibly simple to dive into X-rated, adult-only spaces where anyone can discreetly forge intimate connections.
When you join an adult sex site, anything could happen. Whether you're in the mood for casual hookups or eager to explore your kinks, the right platform is ready to welcome you and fulfill...
Emma Estrada is a writer and performer from the San Fernando Valley of Los Angeles, CA. She has a bachelor’s in English Literature from UC Berkeley and studied Commedia dell'arte at Ecole Philippe Gaulier. She’s been freelance writing since 2019 and has written, acted, and produced award-winning short films, a web series, and a one-woman comedy show for the 2024 Hollywood Fringe Festival. She still lives in Los Angeles despite repeated efforts to leave.
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As described by the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, bisexuality is the sexual orientation of a person who is attracted emotionally, romantically, or physically to more than one gender.
While some may see bisexuality as a gateway to homosexuality or a phase a young person goes through in college, many people live in this gray or, shall I say, rainbow area.
As American psychologist and sex...
Ashayla Blakely is an experienced storyteller who has been writing for DatingAdvice.com since 2021. She graduated with a bachelor's degree in Telecommunications from the University of Florida. She also earned her MFA in Film Production at Florida State University College of Motion Picture Arts. You can often catch her with a script in her hand, calling out the shots in her many directorial roles on set.
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The rise of the sex-positive movement means societal attitudes are shifting in a new direction.
Casual sex may have been frowned upon decades ago, but now, people have more freedom to embrace their sexuality. Modern singles define their sex lives on their own terms.
Casual sex is consensual sex without expectations of a romantic relationship. Thanks to sex-positive hookup apps, singles have more access to...
Amber Brooks is the Editor-in-Chief at DatingAdvice.com. When she was growing up, her family teased her for being "boy crazy," but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating and relationship expert. As an English major at the University of Florida, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about a variety of subjects. Now with over 1,800 lifestyle articles to her name, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to DatingAdvice.com. She has been quoted as a dating expert by The Washington Times, Cosmopolitan, The New York Post, Bustle, Salon, Well+Good, and AskMen.
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When most people think of dating apps and sites, the mainstream options tend to come to mind: Match, eharmony, Tinder, and other platforms dedicated to helping singles find romantic connections.
People who want something simple and casual, however, may want to look elsewhere for satisfaction. Hookup apps have become a haven for sex-driven individuals online.
What are hookup apps? These platforms offer a...
Jules Chen is a Texas-based writer who has been featured on feminist blogs and lifestyle magazines. She graduated from Emory University with dual degrees in English Literature and Chinese Studies. She has served as the managing editor of Lithium Magazine where she worked with a talented team of writers covering lifestyle and pop culture. Her lifestyle writing has been published at Betches, TimeOut, Adolescent Content, and Niche, Inc.
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Even if you don’t know what MILF stands for, you’ve definitely met more than a few in your lifetime. You may even be one yourself. MILFs, or Mothers I’d Like to F—k, are typically identified as sexually attractive middle-aged women with children.
Think of the hot mom from the “Stacy’s Mom” music video or the colloquial Mrs. Robinson from “The Graduate.”
Depictions in pop culture run the gamut from...
Amber Brooks is the Editor-in-Chief at DatingAdvice.com. When she was growing up, her family teased her for being "boy crazy," but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating and relationship expert. As an English major at the University of Florida, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about a variety of subjects. Now with over 1,800 lifestyle articles to her name, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to DatingAdvice.com. She has been quoted by the Washington Times, Cosmopolitan, The New York Post, and AskMen, among others.