Hugh Hefner Syndrome Men Look For Sex Women Look For Success

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Hugh Hefner Syndrome. Men Look for Sex. Women Look for Success.

Leon Scott Baxter

Written by: Leon Scott Baxter

Leon Scott Baxter

Leon Scott Baxter, "America's Relationship Guru," is the founder of and the author of three books on love, romance and relationships.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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What in God’s name did 26-year-old Guess model Anna Nicole Smith see in 89-year-old businessman J. Howard Marshall?

Probably the same thing 26-year-old pin-up girl Crystal Harris sees in 86-year-old Playboy mogul Hugh Hefner.

You’re thinking it’s the age, right? The whole May-December thing. Well, look at Coco Austin and Ice-T (I guess that’s more of a May-August thing).

What do these men and women have in common?

The men found success in some capacity. That means money, fame, stability and financial security.

The women are all young, blonde models.

Yea, I know. It’s not quite a revelation. Most men like young, attractive women, and many women are attracted to successful men.

“We are still wired as

our ancestors were.”

Why do men chase sex and women chase success?

It’s really quite easy. It’s all about survival of the species, and it dates back to our prehistoric ancestors.

A man’s job, other than whacking a saber-toothed tiger and starting a cave fire, was to propagate the species.

That meant to impregnate as many women as possible to ensure the clan would continue.

He looked for mates that had the best chance of reproduction: young and with bodies that could survive delivery (wide hips, which meant curves).

She, on the other hand, was looking for a mate who could provide for her and her offspring.

The more status he had, the better chance of survival for herself and her children.

Very often the man with the most status was older and well-respected and could provide her with food and necessities that might have been difficult to access on her own.

Fast forward 12,000 years later.

Although men no longer need to spread their sperm to ensure the survival of humankind, and although a woman can provide for herself and her children, we are still wired as our ancestors were.

Men still are driven to find a mate that triggers their natural instincts, one that can bear healthy children, while women are still keyed into finding that man who can take care of them and their children.

We may try and separate ourselves from our past, but it’s only been 12,000 years of evolution.

That’s not enough time to rid ourselves of these instincts we no longer need for survival, which brings us to hottie Beth Ostrosky becoming Mrs. Fartman (er, uh, I mean, Mrs. Howard Stern).

Fellas, in what ways do you still see men looking for sex and women looking for success? Give us your opinion below!

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