Lesbian Breakups Peaking

Lesbian Dating

Why are Lesbian Breakups Peaking?

Mary Gorham Malia

Written by: Mary Gorham Malia

Mary Gorham Malia

Mary G. Malia, founder of Gay Girl Dating Coach, is a certified singles coach, strategic intervention coach and author of the book "The Gay Girl’s Guide to Avoid the 14 Dating Traps." She’s known as the leading resource and expert for lesbians who want to move past the barriers to finding love and lasting relationships.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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The holidays are wonderful and tough. There’s the magical part of the holidays: music, romance, gifts, time with friends and family and lots of good food and alcohol.

Then there’s the really tough part of the holidays. It’s the perfect storm for breakups to happen.


When you look at the chart above, you’ll see two big peaks: from Thanksgiving to Christmas and from Valentine’s Day to spring break.

What’s happening?

The holiday season pushes us to take relationships further.

There are family parties. Do you want to invite your new lesbian girlfriend? Are you even out to your family? Will your family accept her? Is your family too nosey? Do they push to see a relationship become committed or push in the opposite direction?

Have you been dating long enough to buy a present? How much do you spend?

There are office parties going on, too. Are you out at work? Do you bring your lesbian girlfriend as your date? Is that acceptable at work?

Do you travel to see family for the holidays? Do you invite the woman you are dating or not? Who pays for that travel? Where will you stay?

“If your relationship is rocky, this

may be the time to make a decision.”

Those are a ton of questions.

How do you answer them?

What all of those questions create is the perfect storm for you or your girlfriend to decide that you are ready to take the relationship deeper or it’s time to get out.

What also can happen is your comfort level with your lesbian lifestyle and your family’s expectations can collide. The fallout is your relationship ends.

It’s such an odd thing to realize more relationships break up over the holidays than any other time of the year. We expect and want this time of the year to be about love, expressing our commitments to others and spending time with the person we care about the most.

What’s really happening is couples break up at epic levels and singles wander around feeling more lonely than ever, wishing they were part of a couple.

This infographic may not give you a lot of hope.

If your relationship is new, go slowly and gently into the holidays. Turn down the thermostat on expectations – everything from gift giving to deciding you won’t make the holidays the end-all, be-all that breaks up a relationship that might have real potential.

If your relationship is on rocky ground, this may be the time to look deeper and make a decision to move on.

The bad news is it’s the season for breaking up. The good news is that means lots of new faces on dating sites starting Jan. 1.

Graph: informationisbeautiful.net. .

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