The 1 Reason Lesbians Should Celebrate Valentines Day

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The #1 Reason Lesbians Should Celebrate Valentine’s Day

Mary Gorham Malia

Written by: Mary Gorham Malia

Mary Gorham Malia

Mary G. Malia, founder of Gay Girl Dating Coach, is a certified singles coach, strategic intervention coach and author of the book "The Gay Girl’s Guide to Avoid the 14 Dating Traps." She’s known as the leading resource and expert for lesbians who want to move past the barriers to finding love and lasting relationships.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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You might be surprised to learn Valentine’s Day originates from the actions of a pioneering and brave man who decided the Roman Empire’s rule that soldiers could not marry was wrong.

St. Valentine married soldiers in defiance of the law.

That act, along with others, resulted in his death, but over the years, his name became associated with the celebration of romantic love on Valentine’s Day.

This day is also the most widely celebrated holiday after New Year’s Day. Yes, the whole world loves the idea of romantic love.

Do something really special.

This year, I want you to do something really special for Valentine’s Day as a statement to defy the many laws that still discriminate against us.

These laws mean we can be fired from our jobs in 39 states simply because we are lesbian or gay.

Other discriminatory laws ban our ability to marry in 39 states.

In the 12 states where same-sex marriage is now recognized, we still do not have access to the federal benefits of marriage.

There are 1,100 federal benefits that are the result of marriage. That’s a pretty big number, don’t you think?

That’s a pretty big reason for why we need to continue to fight for equal rights and for our romantic love and commitments to be recognized.

The origins of Valentine’s Day should be the reason for it to be our lesbian and gay national holiday to continue the fight for equal rights and access to benefits for all people.

Hit it big on Valentine’s Day.

Show up at the party, give out Valentine’s cards and plant a big kiss on each and every person you see all day long in celebration of forbidden marriage and forbidden love.

Tell the whole world our love is so strong nothing will stop us from fighting.