Turn Tables Cancels Date

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How to Turn the Tables When He Cancels a Date

Sharyn Atkinson

Written by: Sharyn Atkinson

Sharyn Atkinson

Sharyn Atkinson has been single for 12 years — and no, she hasn’t been living under a rock and refusing to meet eligible bachelors in her hometown of Melbourne, Australia. She’s just not interested in most of them, and the ones she is interested in still have their good and bad moments.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

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I’ll admit that I date some duds from time to time and have been canceled on at the last minute by these duds, as I’m sure you have, too.

This messes with our social lives because we could have made plans to do something else, like meet some better single men.

Basically, guys who stand women up find something better to do, get distracted, and are not interested in the fact that we might be spending hours making sure a million tiny things are perfect.

So how do you handle it like a badass? Here are my tips:

6 Ways to Turn the Tables

You need to be a good actress to pull this off, so if you can, give this a go:

  1. Answer the phone like you are ridiculously happy, like you just realized your skinny jeans are too big! You get it – you’re in a great mood.
  2. If he asks what you are up to, be vague. Don’t commit to doing anything in particular. You can use one of my favorite lines if you’d like: “Oh a little bit of this, little bit of that. Don’t forget the other!” Back that statement up with a cheeky giggle and he will not ask you anything else.
  3. Let him apologize for cancelling at the last minute. Say you can’t talk because you are either already out or on your way out.
  4. Apologize for forgetting about the date all together.
  5. Wish him a great night out (at his parents’ house, stranded on the side of the road, or any other excuse he came up with).
  6. Wrap up the conversation and make sure you hang up first.

Do This No Matter What His Excuse Is

You need to seem like you’re too distracted because you have so much going on. Just wrap that conversation up. Then, like magic, the tables have turned. It’ll look like he didn’t cancel your date at the last minute. You were just too busy to even remember you had a date. Check mate!

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