Escape From The Dreaded Friend Zone

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Escape from the Dreaded Friend Zone

David Wygant

Written by: David Wygant

David Wygant

David Wygant is an internationally-renowned dating and relationship coach, author and speaker. To find out more about David and all of his dating and relationship-building products, visit

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles and reports have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement.

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Do you find yourself in the friend zone often? How many times have you met a woman, became interested in her and asked her out, only to find yourself hearing her tell you these words:

“You know you’re cool, but I just can’t see us as more than friends.”

It’s driving you crazy, isn’t it?

You take her out to dinner, spend some money and go in for the kiss, but she pushes you away and throws you into the corner…

The dreaded “friend zone.”

Do you want to know the reason why you continually get put in the friend zone time and time again?

It’s because you’re afraid of her. That’s right: You’re afraid of her.

You’re not closing her. You’re not sexually showing her any interest — you’re afraid of her.

You’re probably Mr. Agreeable on the date. You probably show absolutely no conflict at all. You’re probably afraid to touch her.

And when you asked her out, you probably asked her out to some type of lame event like, “Maybe we should all get together, you and me and all my friends.”


“A man will claim a woman. A boy will be

immediately thrown into the friend zone.”

Here’s the deal:

When you ask a woman out, you need to have a plan. The plan is to take her out on a date.

You need to call her up at a specific time or send her a nice text message to ask her out.

You need to be definitive when you meet her. You need to have great eye contact.

You need to grab her hand when you lead her into a restaurant.

And when it comes down to saying good night, you need to not be afraid to go in and give her a goodnight kiss on the lips.

A man will claim a woman. A boy will be wishy-washy and immediately thrown into the friend zone.

Be a man…

So how many times have you found yourself in the friend zone?

Share some of your friend zone stories. I’d love to hear them because maybe you’ll trigger off another article or two about how to get out of that dreaded zone.

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