Love is a lot of things. It’s patient and kind. It’s the opening door. It makes you feel like you’re home again. Whatever it may mean to you, dropping the “L” bomb on your girlfriend can be terrifying but an ultimately beautiful experience.
If you’re hoping to have her utter those three words first, you need to make her feel confident that you’ll reciprocate.
Every woman is different.
We all have unique experiences with previous relationships and for better or worse, everyone carries some manner of baggage from their past.
- Has she been left suddenly before or had issues with flighty boyfriends?
Be reassuring that you’re in it for the long haul. People don’t come with factory standard parts, so what works with one girl probably won’t work with another. Really consider your girlfriend’s personality.
- Is she open about her feelings, or does she take a little prodding?
Being the first person in a relationship to say “I love you” is scary, and if your girlfriend is the strong and silent type, it’s unlikely she’ll be the one proclaiming her devotion from the rooftops.
You know your girlfriend in a way most people don’t, so pay attention to how she expresses her feelings.
Take the necessary steps.
The best way to give your lady friend the gusto to love you first is to take a step forward in your relationship. Make sure she knows you’re going to be around.
Introduce her to your parents or your best friend from home. Take a trip together, a nice trip not a booze cruise with your bros. Go somewhere you can really interact with each other sans distractions from friends and work and Facebook.
Take on a project like a garden or home repair or fixing up an old bike — something to let her know you’re interested in her future. Be sweet. Be attentive. Show her your staying power.
Ultimately, relationships aren’t about tricks or mind games. The best way to get your girlfriend say “I love you” is to tell her first.