How To Score On The First Date

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How to Score on the First Date

Alex Matlock
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Today I am going to discuss something completely random that I was dwelling on a few nights ago after my very last bang.

Here is a statement to get us started: Kissing a girl when you first meet in a bar, club or the place where you initiated the pickup will dramatically increase your chances of getting laid on the first date.

The above statement should not be confused with the idea that kissing a girl when you first meet will increase your chances of getting a date. It will not.

We live in a culture where kissing means nothing. If a girl kisses you, it does not mean she wants to see you again.

If a chick does decide to see you again, here are the three best reasons why kissing her early can get you laid on your first date.

1. It improves your game.

If you go out on a date with a girl you have not kissed before, your entire energy will be focused on how to impress her, so much so that you can miss the signs she is giving you.

As a result, you will be much more nervous, prone to saying stupid things and more likely to overdo everything (humor, boasting, etc).

If you are going out with a girl you have not kissed, you have a high chance of cock-blocking yourself.

On the other hand, if you are going out with a girl you have kissed previously, all you will be thinking about is when and how are you going to initiate the next kiss.

Since you already kissed her before, you strongly believe you can do it again.

As a result, you will immediately position yourself closer to her, close enough to get some touching going.

You will be much more relaxed in the way you talk and everything you do will be focused on getting a make-out session started.

As a result, you are less likely to cock-block yourself and are much more likely to be a stud that goes for what he wants.

Here are my words of advice: Try to get the make-out session going after about an hour.

2. It tells her what to expect.

This has immense power, even if you went for the kiss and she rejected you.

Because she knows you wanted to kiss her, it tells her you are going to try to kiss her again and you might go for something more.

The same goes if you have actually kissed her. She is already expecting you to kiss her again.

Basically, any chick who agrees to go on a date with you after a kiss attempt or an actual kiss is OK with whatever moves you are going to pull on the date. She is very aware that you might just try to weasel yourself into her bed.

As a result, you’re most certainly going to get a make-out session going and possibly even a bang.

“Kissing a girl when you meet can

seriously increase your chances.”

3. It is not the last thing you will do.

This is what it all comes down to.

For example, pretend you got her number and she agreed to go out with you. If she is like most girls, the best you are going to get out of this date is a kiss or make-out session at the end.

If you already kissed when you first met and she agreed to go out with you, things have a much higher chance of going the other way.

It is quite simple when you think about it.

Because you have already kissed, you are going to get a make-out session during the actual date. Therefore, if you have been making out all evening, chances are something more than a kiss will happen at the end of the date.

Most of the time, dating follows a somewhat natural progression: You meet, you ask her out and you kiss after the first date.

After another date, you kiss some more. If you are really lucky, you get a bang. After the third date, you kiss a lot more and usually get the bang.

However, if you kiss her when you meet, you can basically cut two dates out of the equation, so the natural progression goes more like this:

First, you meet and you kiss. Next, you meet again, you kiss a lot and you bang.

In conclusion, kissing a girl when you meet can seriously increase your chances of banging her on the first date because it directly affects what happens at the end of the date.

An important point to remember:

Do not expect and do not try to get a make-out session going as soon as you meet her for the first date.

Give it a little time, start over and rebuild the energy you got going when you first kissed her. The make-out session will happen. Just give it a bit of time.

This is the sort of stuff I discuss on my blog and in the free eBook I give out. If you want to increase your success with women, visit – a place where the dating mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct and fruitful methods of meeting and seducing women.

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