I Initiated the First Dates. When Should I Hold Back?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I’m in a recently started relationship. We have only been on two dates. The girl seems to be very interested in me, and I in her. I have initiated the first two plans. When should I hold back and let her initiate?


Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

While gender roles have been changing, there are still plenty of women who still love to be courted in a traditional way. The challenge for guys is to determine how much is too much, because women also get turned off by a guy who tries too hard.

I would suggest you wait a bit. If you waited a few days to call her between the first dates, wait a week now. It will give her a chance to call you if she’d like to, or it will make her wonder if your interest is waning.

Both genders like to feel they are getting a prize. Be happy and busy to be most attractive.

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