I Scared Her Away. Is There Any Way I Can Salvage This?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I am a 31-year-old single father. I met this woman online two months ago. We finally met for coffee one morning. It was fantastic! I asked her to lunch and we had a great time. She and I have so much in common on a personal level.

After drinking some wine, I text her all of these deep things, like I’m the best man she’s ever met, how great she is, etc. The next day I apologized. She replied “Yeah, you def scared me away. I am not sure what to even say.” I replied if she could overlook it, I’d like to see her again. She gave no reply.

Is there any way I can salvage this?

-Joe (Ohio)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Joe,

In a word, no. But you did learn a very valuable lesson: The early dance of love involves the ability to pursue yet contain yourself.

It’s kind of like learning to drive a stick shift. Too much clutch or too much gas can cause you to stall. Next time you’ll do better.

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