I Think She is with Someone Else. Do You Think My Gut Feelings Are True?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, radio host & podcaster, and the author of three books on relationships and thousands of print and digital articles. More than 1.5 million people follow her sage advice on social media. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and teaches in the Psychology Department at California State University Channel Islands and has been the host of "The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show" on iHeart Radio's KFI AM 640 since 2015. Walsh is also a former Emmy-nominated co-host of "The Doctors," as well as former host of the nationally syndicated show "EXTRA." She was named a Time Magazine Person of the Year in 2017 after speaking out about harassment at a major news network.

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Reader Question:

We live 180 “Chicago” miles away from each other. We’ve been seeing each other for seven years. We were supposed to get married, but then I lost my job and had to move to Chicago to work.

I have a gut feeling she is with someone else. She is divorced, but my sisters tell me she is still married. I looked on a website that tells you the end date of a divorce. Mine has it but hers does not.

Do you think my gut feelings are true?

-John (Illinois)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear John,

Really? You’ve invested seven years in someone you aren’t even sure is single? And now you don’t trust her?

I’m wondering what you guys do talk about. Perhaps just the schedule and the weather?

Well, my dear John, there are some big topics you clearly haven’t been talking about and I suggest you bring them up. That’s a sure way to confirm your gut feeling.

But the real question you are asking me is this: How do I keep her with the distance and the money problems? Am I losing her to another guy?

Remember, relationships are supposed to be an exchange of care. Is that exchange happening? And why the fear of commitment? Which one of you doesn’t want to get married?

If you can honestly answer these questions, you’ll know what your gut is telling you.

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