Reader Question:
I am a 29-year-old male with very little dating experience. I recently asked a girl I met while walking from class for her number. It’s been two days and I want to call her to ask her out.
Should I go with something specific like, “Are you free Wednesday night for dinner?” or should I say something like, “Would you like to go out with me?”
-JW (Washington D.C.)
Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:
Dear JW,
She doesn’t know if she wants to go out with you until she goes out with you.
Invite her to something really specific, say a concert, game or play you think she might like. Say, “I have tickets next week to (whatever it is.) Would you like to join me?”
This shows you’re a man with a plan and it implies you’ll be going places with or without her.
If she says she’s busy, take your sister or a buddy and enjoy the evening. Then wait a week or two and try her again. If she declines again, the ball is in her court.
Three strikes is only for baseball.
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