I Want to Call Her to Ask Her Out. What Should I Say?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh is the author of "The 30-Day Love Detox"" (April 2013).

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

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Reader Question:

I am a 29-year-old male with very little dating experience. I recently asked a girl I met while walking from class for her number. It’s been two days and I want to call her to ask her out.

Should I go with something specific like, “Are you free Wednesday night for dinner?” or should I say something like, “Would you like to go out with me?”

-JW (Washington D.C.)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear JW,

She doesn’t know if she wants to go out with you until she goes out with you.

Invite her to something really specific, say a concert, game or play you think she might like. Say, “I have tickets next week to (whatever it is.) Would you like to join me?”

This shows you’re a man with a plan and it implies you’ll be going places with or without her.

If she says she’s busy, take your sister or a buddy and enjoy the evening. Then wait a week or two and try her again. If she declines again, the ball is in her court.

Three strikes is only for baseball.

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