I’ve Been Trying to Be Her Man. Should I Try Again?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh is the author of "The 30-Day Love Detox"" (April 2013).

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles and reports have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement.

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Reader Question:

I love a girl. I’ve been trying to be her man for five months. She liked me too but recently she said “We don’t belong together.” We agreed four months ago that we can be together if we have the same feelings.

Should I wait and try again? I really want to become a part of her life. Or should I forget her? If I need to forget her, how can I start talking to other girls without feeling guilty or miserable?

-Moshe R. (Michigan)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

I’m sorry to have to tell you something you already know. She’s just not that into you. Yes, sadly, it’s time to forget her.

Now, on to the more important questions. Why would you ever feel guilty or miserable for talking to other women. You don’t owe her one thing, so wipe guilt off your mental slate.

Now, miserable, that’s another matter. Grieving is normal after the loss of a relationship. All humans sometimes lose in love. But it should be followed by a rebuilding of self-esteem.

Know that you are lovable and a super great catch for the right woman at the right time. It’s up to you to go out and make that happen. You can do this. You owe it to yourself to give yourself the gift of a woman who reciprocates.


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