I’ve Been Trying to Find A Date for Years. What’s the Problem?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I’ve been trying to find a date for years. What’s the problem?

-Thomas (Pennsylvania)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Well Thomas, “finding” a date is only half the battle. Then you have to convince her to go out with you. Basically, there are two important elements to finding love: Knowing which pond your market swims in and knowing which bait to use.

Are you out in the world joining charity groups, attending cultural events or being athletic? Those are great fishing ponds. I also love to remind men that walk-a-thons that benefit breast cancer have a wide women-to-men ratio.

And then there’s your game. Are you moving too fast before she trusts you enough to give up her number? I would suggest developing a common interest friendship before moving into something romantic.


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