She Rejected My Kiss. Does She Only Want to Be Friends?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I met this girl and everything seemed great. One night we went out for a drink and the chemistry was going fine, but then when I went for the kiss, she rejected it. I never expected this outcome since we were having such a good vibe.

A couple days later I text her and she tells me she only wants to be friends. Then I decide to ease off, cutting all communication with her for a couple weeks. Last week at the bar I randomly saw her. Although she felt really distant, I could still tell there was some chemistry going on.

Does this girl only want to be friends or something more? Or should I simply move on?


Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

I’m always amazed when men and women get a clear answer when they seek relationship definition and then ignore the answer.
She told you very clearly. She just wants to be platonic friends. And she backed her answer up with behavior.

When you happened to run into her, she acted distant. The “chemistry” you perceive might only be coming from your end. I think you should move on. There are plenty of wonderful women who will appreciate you.

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