We Haven’t Kissed Yet. Would It Be Weird to Ask Her?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I want to have a first kiss with my girl, but I don’t know if we’re ready. We hug all the time, hold hands and tell each other we love each other, but we haven’t kissed yet.

Would it be weird if I asked her about it?

-Matt (Georgia)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Matt: Not weird at all. I always say, if you can’t talk about sex (or any kind of sexual contact), then you have no business doing it. And a gentleman always asks a woman if he can kiss her before he does so. It builds up the excitement.

By all means, have a conversation about this turning point in your relationship. Find out what it will mean to her and tell her what it will mean to you. A first kiss is a BIG DEAL. Make it one.

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