We’ve Come Into Contact Again. What Do I Do?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I met this girl quite a few years ago. At the time, she liked me but I wasn’t really interested in her and was dating someone else. We then became good friends. However, we both drifted apart while we moved and dated other people. We’ve now come into contact again (we are both single) and now I like her. Not sure what to do and whether our rekindling is because of our friendship or our mutual affectionate interest.

-Traveller (Massachusetts)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Traveller,

Well, you’ve travelled this far in the relationship, why not mess it up with sex? Is that what you’re really asking? You’re wondering if she’s always been the girl for you all along, sidelined only by your other distractions.

And I’m wondering what has changed in you, for you to suddenly be able to focus. Is she just another distraction because you happen to be single? (You didn’t tell me why you suddenly like her.)

The crush seemed to be heavily loaded from her end at the beginning. Did something change with her? Now that she likes you less, has she become a challenge?

Oh so many questions for your travelling mind to walk with. And that’s what you’ve got to do. Finally, carry with you the singular question that must be honestly considered before you travel one step closer to her heart: Will her life be better or worse after you’ve made a physical stamp on it?


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