It’s a new year, which means it is time to start a new dating adventure. Use these five tips for successful dating in 2014 to make this dating year one to remember.
1. Do stop worrying about time running out.
This only puts unnecessary pressure on you and will ensure you are detracting and not attracting.
The more you think your time is running out, the more you will be sending out the “I’m desperate to settle down and have a family right now” vibes that will make people run away.
Have you ever noticed how married women attract a lot of men and visa versa? It’s because they are giving off carefree vibes.
Being relaxed and enjoying yourself without focusing on trying to find The One will be the thing that draws people in to talk to you.
Not being married or in a relationship is no longer a sign of an outcast. It’s a sign someone has been putting time and effort into other areas of their life on things like a career, friends, travel or looking after a friend or family member.
Remember there are many people out there who are in the same boat. You are never too old for love.
It is good to remind friends and family members it’s not helpful for them to put pressure on you.
2. Build your social circles.
Most people go about their day almost on autopilot – oblivious to who and what is going on around them – with their nose firmly in Twitter or Facebook during free time, talking to virtual friends and not engaging in real conversations with real people.
Try going to different places on your lunch break. Maybe leave your phone in the office so you aren’t tempted to look at it and see what interesting people you can meet.
Successful dating comes down to social skills. Talking to people will make you happier and when you are happy, you are magnetic.
3. Let go of negative emotional baggage.
If you are hung up on the past, your ex, the guy you liked who just wanted to be friends or the friend/family member that pissed you off, you won’t be able to be in the positive mind set that you need to draw people into you.
Everyone wants to be around people who are positive and happy.
You can’t change the past. You can only change the way you view it. Learn to accept it and hopefully take something positive from it.
“Try to start 2014
with a clean slate.”
4. Be aware of your qualities as a person.
Many of us get hung up on our faults. They are another thing that repels people.
Everybody dislikes it when people put themselves down. Really focus on what you have to offer.
If you are not sure, ask your friends how they would describe you and pick out the positive traits to acknowledge and nurture.
A lack of confidence is often down to people lacking self-worth and self-belief.
Being aware of your qualities as a person will help send the right vibes out to people and it will make you feel good.
5. Make dating happen.
For many people to have success with dating, it’s a full-time job. It requires effort.
Dating websites such as Match.com are great to invest time in alongside building your social circles. Try not to get too involved in virtual messages. Suggest meeting up so you can see if you have a connection.
Do remember it is a numbers game and don’t take it personally if people don’t reply to your message or let you down. Just move along to the next.
Once you accept that people are flakey and have their own situations going on and that’s it’s not all about you, it makes it easier to accept when things don’t work out.
Instead of thinking of what went wrong, spend your time and energy in other places. Don’t waste time on the past.
Investing time in the right people is essential for successful dating and relationships.