He Started Ignoring Me. What Do I Do Now?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, radio host & podcaster, and the author of three books on relationships and thousands of print and digital articles. More than 1.5 million people follow her sage advice on social media. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and teaches in the Psychology Department at California State University Channel Islands and has been the host of "The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show" on iHeart Radio's KFI AM 640 since 2015. Walsh is also a former Emmy-nominated co-host of "The Doctors," as well as former host of the nationally syndicated show "EXTRA." She was named a Time Magazine Person of the Year in 2017 after speaking out about harassment at a major news network.

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Lillian Castro

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Reader Question:

A few weeks back things finally started to launch with my crush. His birthday came along and I wanted to really show him I liked him, so I bought him a Fossil watch, gift cards to his favorite stores and cookies that spelled out his name. He was very grateful and we continued texting. I casually said, “You know I don’t do this for just anyone…so I hope by now you know that I really like you because I can’t get any more obvious than this.”

He didn’t reply. So I waited a few days and text him, “Hey! Sorry if I scared you the other day. I can be a bit overwhelming and forward. Haha!” And he’s still ignoring me. I thought guys didn’t like girls who played games, so I was direct and just went for it!

What do I do now?

-Tanya (Tennessee)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:


I know your pain and confusion. When i was in high school, I bribed a girlfriend whose dad who worked at a radio station to score me coveted tickets to Bruce Springsteen. I wasn’t even a Springsteen fan, but the guy I had a crush on was.

Well, we went to the concert, the one I paid dearly for, and basically, I never heard from my crush again. I was mortified!

This is what I learned: Guys don’t like girls who play games but, I’m sorry to tell you, no one wants something that appears to be so easy. Your intentions were pure, honest and sweet. But in showing your cards so early in the dating game, you gave the impression you are too available.

No one of either gender wants to eat McDonald’s fast food (even if it comes with a cute cup with your name on it) if they can work a little harder and have a slow-cooked steak dinner.

I wish I could tell you this is fixable, but it’s probably one of those painful lessons we all have to learn.

Please know this: Your kindness and generosity shows you will be a great girlfriend – to someone – and now you’ll know to wait until he’s chasing hard.

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