There are a lot of reasons why a guy won’t call you his girlfriend.
Although most intelligent and sensible guys wouldn’t have any problem doing it, especially if it’s what you want, other guys who have some issues might feel differently.
This entire article will focus on the mentality of such men and what you can do to make a change.
He won’t call you his girlfriend after a month.
I would assume he’s enjoying the relationship exactly as it is right now. He will not move it further unless he is inspired to do so. Don’t worry because I’ll also show you how to inspire him.
If you think about it differently, a guy usually doesn’t call a girl his girlfriend because he doesn’t have to.
To some guys, calling someone their girlfriend is a huge hassle, and if the girl is making herself too available or too committed when he hasn’t actually committed to anything, why would he need to call her his girlfriend?
Think of it this way: If you were shopping at the mall and the mall suddenly decided to give you everything for free, would you say “No, please let me pay for it”? Of course not.
It doesn’t mean he will never call you his girlfriend.
There are some things you can do in order to inspire him. Some might say this is playing games, but these are just some things that help you shift your perspective in order to make him understand.
First off, you should not get caught up in this issue. Oftentimes, women just bring this thing up constantly, which smothers every single bit of joy out of the relationship.
If the relationship stops being fun and full of happiness and starts to become more like a battle of convincing, the guy will feel less inclined to stay.
Why would any guy want to continue a relationship that feels like it’s falling apart?
Don’t stress him about this issue. Bringing it up once is more than enough – believe me. The guy already has some underlying issues that need taking care of, and a constant reminder that he’s not calling you his girlfriend isn’t going to help.
“If you’re not satisfied, then find a
guy who can make you happy.”
What can you do?
Most importantly you need to love yourself. This may sound cheesy, but having a high sense of self-worth means you know what you want and what you can get. You never need to settle for anything less.
Once you truly believe this, the way you view this relationship and him will change. Not only that, but knowing your value will also come across in the way you act.
I would suggest you focus on being fun and lighthearted while trying to enjoy the relationship for what it is.
More importantly, I would recommend keeping your options open and continuing to keep up with all of your other social activities that don’t involve him. These are things like seeing your friends, going out, going to parties and going on dates.
It’s very important to keep your time and company only as available as he is willing to be. Make an effort to match your level of commitment to his so you’re not left hanging.
If you’re put on the spot about any of these activities (including going on a date), you can calmly say, “I never thought we were exclusive.” Trust me when I say he will get the message.
Again, this is not playing games.
If he isn’t mature enough to call you his girlfriend after two months, then you should do the mature thing and keep your options open. You can’t risk spending an infinite amount of time around a man who doesn’t seem to be ready to commit.
Something to think about:
If you like the relationship for what it is right now, then stay. If you’re not satisfied with how it is right now, then you should move on and find a guy who can make you happy.
There’s an infinite amount of reasons why a guy might not be able to call you his girlfriend. Usually it is down to his commitment issues.
It may be because (as in today’s case) he just came out of a long relationship and doesn’t want to get hurt again, or it could be he’s incredibly stressed at work and can’t deal with commitment right now.
It really doesn’t matter what the reason is. This relationship is either working for you at the moment or it’s not.
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