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Sound familiar to a lot of you ladies?
Why is it that in the world of romance, so many relationships end up with your man losing interest in you and the partnership, seemingly all at once, like there was an expiration date on the fun times, and then he withdraws?
Keeping the flame burning brightly once the novelty has worn off can be a real challenge since comfort breeds laziness.
It is as if no one wants to put the effort into the relationship after a while. It is human nature and men and women are both guilty of it in their own ways.
For now, let’s examine why men have the tendency to stop giving like they used to.
Men are built to compete, conquer and control, with the exception of the sensitive man who is more passive in his approach. (Sensitive men are more comfortable being chased around than doing the hunting.)
As for the majority of men in their masculine energy (notice this is a case of energy, not gender, since men and women both have masculine and feminine aspects within themselves), they see most everything as a challenge.
Life becomes one giant competition where getting to the next level is not only desired, it is imperative.
Accomplishing more is their major goal and driving force. They were taught this since childhood.
The men who are especially driven in this way develop the need to escape routine life at all costs.
If things come too easy too quickly, they end up losing interest, like a cat with a mouse who will not run away.
Men value that which they work for and that which is earned. If they have put great effort into winning something, then that something holds great value to them.
They love the challenge and the mystery of the discovery.
The guy you fell for way back when might turn out to be a different guy today. Why? Because back when you met, you were a challenge for him, a new conquest.
He was determined to make you part of his world.
He was determined to control every aspect of you, partly to demonstrate to himself he is the King and he is irresistible to mere mortals and partly because you represent the unknown, a part of the world he was hoping to discover, like a great explorer from days gone past.
Once he got you eating out of his hand, once he climbed your highest peaks, then he needs to find the next challenge. Maybe it is a kid, maybe it is marriage, maybe it is a mistress.
It does not mean he has stopped loving you. It doesn’t even mean he cares for you less. It simply means he is ready to move on to the newest challenge.
“Don’t ask more of him.
Ask more of yourself.”
There is a key element women must remember when it comes to men, dating and relationships: less is more.
Less going after him, less asking for more attention, less nagging, less being a monkey on his back.
Women often make their significant other more important than themselves.
However, if he is not giving you what you want, then switch that around and make yourself more important than him.
Get your attention off him and all the things he does not do for you and put that attention onto yourself and how great you are.
Fill in your free time with the things you would like to do but have put on hold because of him.
This behavior will make you scarce yet happily occupied, meanwhile bringing him back around after you.
Sitting around waiting for him to call is just about the worst thing you could do, so do not do it.
Like Red says in “The Shawshank Redemption,” “Get busy living or get busy dying.” Choose the former.
You have your own God-given life and you need to cherish it.
It will leave you centered and it will leave him wondering what’s so important that you’re not blowing up his phone, which in turn can have the effect of drawing him back to you because suddenly he will feel like you’re slipping away.
In short, do not ask more of him. Ask more of yourself. These positive changes will take you out of the victim role and neither of you will feel like you are being controlled.
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