I Don’t Know if He’s Into Me. Should I Give Up?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I am currently trying to date a British man. I invited him to a friend’s party, but he declined because of his daughter and stated “We will do something fun later.” It’s been about two weeks and nothing. We work in the same building and see each other almost every day. I am normally aggressive and would have already asked him out on another date, but I’m not getting any clear indicators that he is into it.

Should I type a list of my interests so he can review them to see if we have anything in common, or should I just give up?

-Morgan (California)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Morgan. Morgan. Morgan. You ambitious thing. I know this is something you want, but the one thing we can’t really change is another person’s behavior.

You’ve asked him out and showed you are interested. He declined and took the ball to his court. Aside from smiling and being available, there’s not a whole lot you can do at this point, except to not take it personally.

My hunch is that this isn’t about you. There may be an obstacle in his life you know nothing about. Stand up tall, breath, and move on with a smile on your face.


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