Not only will a good dating profile attract men to you, but a good dating profile will also prompt men to message you first. The 3 most important components are your photos, headline, and text.
Here are 4 online dating profiles examples to attract men as well as some don’ts to watch out for:
1. Look at Other People’s Profiles for Ideas
They say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, and that appears to be true. Scientists at Barts, the London School of Medicine, and The University of North Texas suggest that looking at other people’s online dating profiles, finding what catches your eye, and then mirroring the good aspects in your own profile will bring you success.
Almost every dating site lets you create a dating profile for free, (Match.com even lets you browse profiles for free), so make use of it. Maybe you’ll see that one woman used a quote in her headline that you thought was clever and would attract a guy, or maybe you’ll notice another woman posted a video of herself instead of just photos. Whatever it is, you won’t regret doing your research.
2. Use High-Quality Photos That Match the Tone of Your Profile
Uploading a photo is one of the first steps is to creating your profile. Your main photo is the first thing men will notice about you, so it’s worth taking the time to make sure it’s perfect. The worst thing you could do is use old photos of yourself. It’s dishonest, and you’ll only make the guy mad when you meet in person. The only exception is if you look exactly the same as you did five years ago or whatever the case is.
Smartphones have some awesome camera capabilities now, so get your best friend to take updated photos of you and help you determine what pose and background looks good. Or you could even hire a professional photographer to ensure you get some great shots.
A Good Profile Photo
See how this photo is clear, there aren’t any distractions in the background, and she isn’t covering her face with a hat or something? That’s what you want to do in your photos, too.
You’ll also want to mix up your photos with some headshots, full-body shots, action shots, etc., and make sure they match who you say you are. So if you say you’re outdoorsy, then you should have at least one picture of you camping or hiking or skiing.
Don’t Use Low-Quality, Unflattering Photos
Studies show women who wear red in their profile photo receive more initial messages from men than women who don’t, but that’s the only thing that’s right with this pic.
See how it looks like she just rolled out of bed late for Sunday brunch with the girls? You don’t want to do that. Plus she isn’t even smiling.
And avoid selfies as well as group and overly sexualized pictures — I beg of you. Not only are selfies way overplayed, but they really only make sense in the context of a social media site like Instagram. In terms of group shots, you want the men to actually know which one is you, so stick to solo photos. As for sexy pictures, you want to walk that fine line between showing enough without revealing too much. Leave a little mystery to it.
3. Have a Succinct & Catchy Headline
Your dating profile headline is the short phrase that usually appears next to your photo. It’s not as in depth as your About section, but it’s still very important. This is your chance to show off your personality.
You also want to be aware of certain words that will attract men. A study by Wired, who analyzed data from OkCupid.com and Match.com, identified 1,000 keywords that are the best and worst options. Words you should try to use include “yoga”, “surfing”, “Radiohead”, “abs”, and “whom”. Pick and choose the ones that work best with your interests. Words you shouldn’t use include “my cats”, “drama”, “girlfriends”, “retirement”, and “karaoke”.
A Good Headline
See how this headline gives you a snapshot of who this woman is and what she’s interested in? Play around with a few headlines before you decide on the final one. You don’t want it to feel fake or forced.
Don’t Use a Vague Headline
“Just checking this out”? This headline won’t tell men anything about this woman and how they could be compatible with her. It implies a negative connotation that she doesn’t really want to be online dating and didn’t feel like taking the time to present herself in the best light.
4. Your Text Should Be Specific, Conversational, Concise & Upbeat
When writing the text for your profile, there aren’t any hard-and-fast rules, but there are several things you want to keep in mind to make sure you’ll attract men.
Good Profile Text
The woman’s About section below is charming, detailed but not too long, insightful, and funny. These are all emotions you want to evoke.
Don’t Be Negative and Have a Long List of Wants
She comes off as mean, superficial, and demanding, and I’m guessing the men reading her profile think so, too.
5 Tips for Good Profile Text
Besides using the example (and don’t) above as a starting point, here are several other tips for when you’re filling out your profile information:
1. Focus On Your Best Qualities
If you aren’t as intelligent as Marie Curie or as funny as Amy Schumer, then don’t try to come off like you are. Everyone has their own strengths, so concentrate on those. Don’t focus on what you lack, but focus on what you can offer a man when you’re on a date and in a relationship.
Are you a good listener? Can you cook? Are you artistic? Take some time to think about what you like about yourself and make that stand out in your profile.
2. Talk to Him the Way You Would a Friend
You’ll want your profile to sound like how you would actually talk. You shouldn’t be stuffing it with big words you never use. Does anyone really say “magnanimous” in real life? No.
A good idea is to have your friend write your profile while you talk to her about your interests and what you’re looking for in a man. This will help you come across as sincere and genuine.
3. Highlight Your Specific Interests, Values & Beliefs
You don’t just want to attract all kinds of men. You want to attract men who you’ll be attracted to in return, which means you need to include important details about yourself in your profile. This includes specifics about your hobbies, religious beliefs, political stance, etc. General statements about loving movies and Italian food won’t help you stand out from the millions of other women out there, even if you really do like those things.
However, this doesn’t mean you should write a novel about yourself or include a laundry list of things you require in a man. Be selective and purposeful about what you write.
4. Be Positive & Confident
Even if you have your doubts about online dating and only joined because your friend made you do it, don’t mention that in your profile. Similar to the “just checking this out” headline above, coming off like online dating is chore to you will be a turnoff to men. Honest, confident, humble, funny, friendly — this is how you want to be, not aloof.
5. Watch Your Grammar & Spelling
An OkCupid study found people who use netspeak (ur, u, wat, wont, and so on), use poor grammar, and make a lot of spelling mistakes in their dating profile are less likely to get a response. Commas, apostrophes, entire words, complete sentences — these are all your friends.
Creating an online dating profile to attract men shouldn’t be stressful. With these tips, you can have a profile that you’re proud of, and now that you’re a pro, you can then start searching through the guys’ profiles to see how theirs stand up and if you’re a match. And don’t forget that Match.com lets you browse profiles for free, so you should take advantage of it.
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