Women's Dating

Why “You Complete Me” is BS

Jane Garapick

I really do get it. “You complete me” is simply a tear-evoking, make-us-weak-at-the-knees statement we would all love to hear coming from our man.

The very thought of him just needing us so much that he would be broken, a fraction of the man he is now if we weren’t in his life, just makes our hearts melt.

But reality is far from what is portrayed in the movies, and the romance movie genre is one of the worst offenders.

Think about it:

Do you really want to be dating only part of a person? Someone who has not yet matured completely? Someone who is so needy of your attention and affection that they latch onto you and just won’t let go?

The word clinger comes to mind. When you think about it this way, it becomes obvious — of course you don’t want that kind of man.

Well, the truth is guys don’t want that either.

Men want a woman who knows who she is and what she wants in life and is confident in herself and her abilities. They want a complete woman.


“When you bring your complete self to the relationship,

you’re able to recognize if you’re compatible.”

Being complete doesn’t mean you have to be perfect.

We all have our faults, but being complete means you understand these faults and know they are yours and yours alone.

They’re not caused by your partner and you are the only person that can change these traits.

It also doesn’t mean your partner or the relationship has to be perfect.

If you can separate your own complete self from the relationship and your partner, you’ll be able to love him for all that he is, his complete self.

This kind of support will naturally bring out the best in him and in you.

Then your love for each other will naturally grow as you do what makes for a truly great, long-lasting relationshipcomplement each other.

Make yourself complete first.

So instead of looking for someone to complete, and for someone to complete you, be complete in and of yourself first.

When you bring your complete self to the relationship, instead of having the relationship or your partner define who you are, then you’re able to really recognize if you’re compatible with the person you’re with.

When you bring your complete self to a relationship with someone who is also bringing their complete self, you can then use the much more appropriate phrase, “You complement me.”

While that phrase surely won’t sell as many movie tickets, it’s a much better route to a real-life happy ending.

Ladies, what do you think of the, “You complete me,” phrase?

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About The Author

Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it's like to have a broken heart, a broken dream and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at www.gettingtotruelove.com. To get started on your own personal journey to true love, download Jane's complimentary guide "Find Your True Love: 10 Simple Steps to Getting the Love You Want...and Deserve." Connect with her on Google+.