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nyc1995

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August 31, 2016 at 1:37 pm #110204

21 year old interested in 16 year old?

So I am a 21 year old female in college and I am interested in a guy who is 16 (almost 17). I swear I’m normal and have dated guys my own age and older. I have known his family my whole life and the past month we have been talking more and I am starting to have feelings for him. In Florida, it is not illegal (even though this relationship is not sexual).
Would it be weird to start seeing him? He is very mature and smart. This has never happened to me. Now I finally understand that the heart wants what the heart wants! What do you all think about this?

temporarily

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September 26, 2016 at 2:27 pm #112502

Hi!
One year ago I would’ve classified any relationship between a 21&16-year old as not okay, but then I saw one relationship with that type of age difference appear in my social circle, and now I would say it depends on the circumstances.
So, I got to know this group of people through a new hobby, among them a 16-year old girl. She had been friends with my cousin, who was 21 at the time, and they were super close, so,I’d heard a lot about her before meeting her. Half a year later she and my cousin started a romantic relationship, and to my surprise I was fine with it. I thought about it a lot and defined a couple of reasons for this:
1. He was aware of the age difference. He knew they were in different stages of life, and doesn’t try to force her to grow up, she’s still quite naive despite being mature for her age, and he lets her be that
2. He lets her take the lead in everything. She is the one taking the next step if she wants to.
3. Her family knows him, and approves of him.

mackenzierayburn

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September 27, 2016 at 11:48 pm #112674

It’s a little bit weird at those ages.

temporarily

Participant

September 28, 2016 at 2:46 am #112682

Oh, yes, it definitely is! It’s just not always abusive or exploiting

EBarbz

Participant

September 28, 2016 at 2:05 pm #112772

Yesit is a little weird. How well do you know him? Maybe he seems mature and smart for his age at first sight, but in reality anyone 16yo has a lot of growing up to do.

Nycgal40

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January 26, 2017 at 3:11 pm #124639

Is there a reason why you want to be with this guy knowing that he is 16 yrs old?

richiro

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January 26, 2017 at 5:40 pm #124704

make sure what the statutory rape laws are inyour state. just to be sure. You can never tell when sex happens or is too much of a temptation to pass up.
As far as “it is okay?” who knows nowadays. I would say it isn’t common and it has more obstacles to its success than “normal” relationships – but that means nothing today…

If it truly works and you truly get along and your’e not doing this b/c “it’s available” or neither of you are doing this “to avoid being alone” – then enjoy it and just take it slowly and get to know eac hother. the rest will take care of itself.