51. Divorced. Financially struggling.

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51. Divorced. Financially struggling.

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    minnesotadude
    minnesotadude
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    August 3, 2018 at 12:16 am #180755
    51. Divorced. Financially struggling.

    I’m 51 and I’ve been divorced for 8 months (separated and womanless for over two years).

    In a nutshell, the divorce was not good for me financially. The basic way we ended up splitting our assets was her keeping the house, and me keeping my retirement funds. It is substantial, but I obviously don’t want to touch it for quite a few years to come.

    So for now I live in a little one bedroom apartment and live paycheck to paycheck. I pay my bills, I pay my child support, I am frugal and responsible. But I’m not some guy who can take off for the Bahamas on a whim. And divorced women in their 40s and 50s don’t seem to be looking for guys in my situation.

    Do I aim my sites at “dating down” bigtime? Like, the hotel cleaning lady? Or do I just accept romantic defeat and focus on Yoga and loving myself, and finding the true happiness within?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    August 3, 2018 at 5:56 pm #180800

    At this time you probably don’t need to be rushing into anything serious.
    If someone is simply looking to have a “good time” in the moment your financial situation isn’t important.
    As long as you have enough money to get through the night or weekend that’s all that matters.

    You also have the option of dating/hooking up with younger women while away on vacation .
    Sure you can’t “take off for the Bahamas or Cancun on a whim but you can PLAN a trip 6 months or a year in advance.
    Set up some alerts on Apple Vacations dot com or Travel Zoo dot com to get notifications of hot deals.

    There are also sites like singlecruises dot com where groups of singles go on cruises to meet other singles.
    Meetup dot com is a site filled with numerous hobby/interest groups who meet for gatherings once or more a month.

    There are also women who are in your ex-wife’s shoes where they got the house from the divorce.
    Therefore they don’t “need a man” with a house nor his money! Just a good guy!