am I doomed to be alone now that I'm in my mid 50s?


am I doomed to be alone now that I'm in my mid 50s?

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    November 5, 2017 at 6:25 am #155106
    am I doomed to be alone now that I'm in my mid 50s?

    I did post this in the seniors column, but hope I might get more responses from a larger group…

    I’m in my mid 50s. Divorced 6 years after a long mostly good marriage.
    I’ve been online dating for years now with no luck.
    In part its been my own fault—too picky. Not that I wanted to be picky, it was just how I felt.
    Now that I feel more open, I’m afraid I’m doomed.
    Its mostly the same guys on the dating websites that have also been there for years.
    Its not that they’ve asked me out and I’ve rejected them (they have not), its just that they’ve seen me there again and again quite literally for years.
    I hear that men only like “high status” women. Obviously a woman who has been looking for a partner for years can’t be high status.
    What can I do?
    I’m not unattractive physically (men who actually know me have told me that I”m actually ‘hot,’ despite being middle aged), but men in their 50s seem totally uninterested in me.

    November 10, 2017 at 1:23 am #155845

    If I were you I would try different venues in add’n to online dating, just to keep your options as open and diverse as possible. Don’t give up!!! You sound like a nice person. You’ll find someone! You just need to keep at it and try different approaches!

    My own feeling is that there are many more quality women out there than quality men, especially past a certain age, so it’s going to take an effort, but quality guys DO exist. Definitely keep looking and don’t despair!

    November 10, 2017 at 8:42 pm #155875

    I think we as human beings, should always have hope. Please be optimistic and smile. I think life will give you the chance.

    November 27, 2017 at 9:15 pm #157527

    Dont lose hope you never know you can find soon who loves the way you are.