Am I wrong for doing this?

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Am I wrong for doing this?

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    jenygump11
    jenygump11
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    September 21, 2018 at 7:25 pm #185045
    Am I wrong for doing this?

    My bf of 2 months was in a motorcycle accident 3 days ago and was discovered unconscious. He was rushed to the hospital and as of yesterday he regained consciousness and is only slightly alert due to medication. I discovered this news by trying to add him on FB and discovering his mom’s post. I grew desperate and searched for updates from his roommates on the first day, and posting a reply to this mother’s FB post on the second day. His mom did not respond to my condolences to him. After calling the hospital where he’s currently hospitalized 3-4 times over the course of 3 days, I finally retrieve his hospital room number. Overwhelmed by not receiving a response from his mom (whom I never met), I head to the hospital, asking nearly every nurse if it is okay for me to go into this room, and being graciously accepted in. His Staff Sergeant and mother seemed annoyed and hesitant about me visiting. I spent 10 mins with him and I left. Both his arms are broken. Should I have waited?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    September 21, 2018 at 8:21 pm #185046

    The odd thing is for you to be his “girlfriend” it sounds like he hadn’t taken the time to introduce you to any of his “inner circle”.
    You shouldn’t had to find out about the accident via FB. His roommates should have gotten in touch with you at the very least.
    You are essentially being treated like a “stranger” and not someone who is (close) to him.

    There was nothing wrong with you visiting him.
    Your boyfriend put you in a bad position by not making your importance to him known to his inner circle.
    Hopefully it was just bad judgement on his part and not because he’s not as serious about the relationship as you believe he is.

    Best wishes!