An odd situation. (involves the dreaded "pill")

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An odd situation. (involves the dreaded "pill")

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    Snorlax_Man87
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    February 14, 2019 at 10:07 pm #195033
    An odd situation. (involves the dreaded "pill")

    So some people tell me this is how modern dating works. Others have told me to move on. Others have even said to not focus on this. about a month ago I started talking to this girl online through a mutual friend. We seemingly hit it off. Now we are both not looking for a relationship but if one forms great. However, she also said that we don’t have to be strictly platonic and may have sex. Which I was fine with. Also, she stated that when she does have sex with someone she typically prefers her and her partners doesn’t have sex with others. Which again is fine and it’s safe. So I was prescribed a pill called cialus cause our first time trying to have sex was kinda killed on my part to whcih I promise I would fix. Now, please understand, sex is not an obligation. Sex is not expected nor deserved. So don’t think I am entitled to it. But i was prescribed 6 pills that cost me almost 300 dollars. I noticed the last time we hung out she knew I took the pill but wasn’t even remotely interest

    Snorlax_Man87
    Snorlax_Man87
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    February 14, 2019 at 10:11 pm #195034

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    Interested. Which is fine it happens and I understand this. But I don’t know exactly how to communicate to her that these pills do cost quite a bit of money without her feeling like I am focing some obligation on her. I don’t want her to feel obligated honestly. I really enjoy her company and I don’t want sex to complicate things between us. But the fact I need a pill and to plan things out in advance sucks and does make the prospect not as fun. While I am frustrated I don’t feel it fair to put it on her as well.

    So I don’t know what to do really. Do I let her know that those pills are expensive and to at least give me an idea as to what she will be like when she comes over? Or, do I tell her we can’t have sex anymore on account of the fact its almost impossible to plan out ahead of time. I just don’t want to sound entitled or needy or anything. Cause that is a shitty thing to do and I would like our friendship to go somewhere in the future or at least remain the same.

    Snorlax_Man87
    Snorlax_Man87
    Participant
    February 15, 2019 at 8:20 am #195035

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    WIthout anyone feeling guilt. So any suggestions?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    February 17, 2019 at 12:50 pm #195072

    “..she stated that when she does have sex with someone she {typically} prefers her and her partners doesn’t have sex with others.”
    The word “typically” implies she does make exceptions. It would not surprise me if she were having sex with another guy.

    I’m not sure why anyone would pay $50 per pill to have sex with someone without the two people {planning for a romantic evening}.
    You are right not to mention the pill or it’s cost to her since a) You’re not in a relationship and b) No one should feel obligated to have sex.

    If you have ED issues you have to forget about having “spontaneous sex”.
    Therefore you may want to only consider the purchase of ED drugs only when you are in an actual relationship.
    The other option is for you and whomever you’re with to have already planned a romantic evening in advance.

    Per Google:Current prices for brand-name Cialis are around $400 for 30 tablets, and prices for {generic tadalafil} run at nearly $100 for 30 tablets with a GoodRx coupon