Anxious Attachment Help?

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Anxious Attachment Help?

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    blueberrypanda
    blueberrypanda
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    April 1, 2020 at 5:20 am #232421
    Anxious Attachment Help?

    I think I am an anxious attachment style male and I always seem to like avoidant women. Does anyone else have this problem?

    I met this girl 6 months ago while traveling in Bali and we met up several times in different locations. I want to take things to the next level but sometimes she goes days without writing me and takes a long time to respond to me. I am trying to organize a trip for us to meet the next time but don’t want to pressure her. I know she is with her family right now in Sweden so I am trying to give her space, but I have lost interest in dating anyone but her. Should I try and date other people anyway?

    I watched a video last night on anxious attachment with paula sacks on beauty is eternal and now I am pretty positive I have anxious attachment style and that every girl I like is avoidant. I want to change this but I do not know how. Does anyone have experience working on their attachment level and did it help? Can recommend any books to learn more?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    April 7, 2020 at 4:14 pm #232626

    “I always seem to like avoidant women.”
    When you Love YOURSELF you’ll stop making life harder on yourself.
    The world may not owe you anything but YOU owe yourself the world!
    Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself.

    Each of us gets to (choose) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
    Each of us has our own mate selection/screening process and “must haves list”.
    Each of us has our boundaries and “deal breakers”.

    {Suffering is optional}

    Some guys either love to go after girls who are “out of their league” or have no interest in them.
    The reason why there are so many sad and lonely “nice guys” is because they don’t want to pursue “nice girls”.

    In order for (her) to be “the one” she would have to see (you) as being “the one”.
    At the very least a “soulmate” is someone who actually wants to be with YOU!

    In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection just means: Next!

    “Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde