Asking out a girl, but she says she is not free. How to reply?

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Asking out a girl, but she says she is not free. How to reply?

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    marioschluse
    marioschluse
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    January 7, 2018 at 5:00 pm #161776
    Asking out a girl, but she says she is not free. How to reply?

    Hi,

    a lot of times when I asked a girl to hang out with me,
    the reply they are not free or busy on that day, without suggesting another day?

    How should I reply?
    A) Suggest another day?
    B) Ask her why she is busy?
    C) Continue chatting and ask her later again? Same activity
    D) Continue chatting and ask her later again? Different activity
    E) Don’t reply and move on.

    What should I express?
    A) Disappointment
    B) Be indifferent

    Hope you can help me.
    Thanks in advance!

    joey8891
    joey8891
    Participant
    January 7, 2018 at 9:21 pm #161788

    Continue talking with her and try and get her to say when she is free.

    ambitioncombined
    ambitioncombined
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    January 8, 2018 at 8:44 am #161784

    I think you would have preferred that I answered in the form of A.B.C.D. based on the format of your thread. Unfortunately I can’t give you my honest advice with those guidelines. To be blunt, I think she either is literally really busy, or doesn’t want you to pursue her. How about ask her what day she is free and try to compromise. Don’t push anything. You can also ask her what activity she would like to do on that day if she agrees to hang out. Don’t be disappointed or indifferent. Find out what the situation really is before you choose to react.

    Kandice0809
    Kandice0809
    Participant
    January 8, 2018 at 6:09 pm #161914

    Eventually you’ll know if she’s interested or not. Women aren’t that hard to communicate with. Don’t be upset or ask too many questions or even make it too much about her. Simply ask about rearranging days and see what happens. If she’s that busy she’ll tell you why and she’s not interested you’ll be able to tell with the reply from the second question. Best of luck!

    Torpedo555
    Torpedo555
    Participant
    January 8, 2018 at 9:43 pm #161926

    Display indifference, tease her, don’t chase. Flirt with other girls in front of her, let her see you have options

    brooklynrose
    brooklynrose
    Participant
    January 9, 2018 at 7:21 am #161932

    Just act indifferent

    JonDoeJames12345
    JonDoeJames12345
    Participant
    January 9, 2018 at 11:03 pm #162046

    Id say show indifference like it doesn’t effect you. try to make plans with other friends on the day you originally intended on going with her, and if she truly wants to go on a date, she might ask you about what you did or reinitiate the idea, but dont chase or look desperate or apologetic, that is a turn off for women and will generally repel them.