Awkward situation

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Awkward situation

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  • Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews
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    silentwind
    silentwind
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    November 5, 2018 at 10:43 am #188732
    Awkward situation

    i want you to know that i live in middle east, so our kind of dating differs from most of the world
    im at medical school, at my 5th year(medical college is made up of 6 years in here), so i like a girl from my class, shes a very close friend of another one who has a crush on me, but i dont like her at all, so i dont really know how to approach the girl that i like(from my 5 years of experience with the girl ik that she likes me as well), the thing about dating in my country is that we do it secretly, first on social media and text messages then real dating which might come after a year(ik it sucks), another thing that disrupts me is that the girl that i like really likes to show off, like if i became close to her she will tell almost everyone in my class, which i dont really want, since ive got an ex among them which i dont want her to know because she still loves me.

    so in summary i just want to get her message me without other girls in my class finding out about it.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    November 5, 2018 at 5:59 pm #188773

    “..the girl that i like really likes to show off, like if i became close to her she will tell almost everyone in my class, which {i dont really want},” So basically you’re saying: She is not “the one” for you!
    If a woman has to {change who she is} to be with you then she’s WRONG for you.

    Generally speaking people don’t change unless (they) are unhappy.
    Very few people are walking around with their hand raised in the air screaming: “I want someone to change me!”
    Most people want to be loved and appreciated for who they are.

    Secondly you shouldn’t care if your ex knows you’re dating someone new.
    Life goes on. She’ll have to get over it!

    Thirdly and this is probably the biggest challenge of them all;

    The girl you like is best friends with the one who has a crush on you!
    Not many “good friends” would go behind a friend’s back and date someone they knew their friend liked.
    Most people wouldn’t kill a friendship over some guy or girl they are not already emotionally invested in.

    CJ
    CJ
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    November 14, 2018 at 6:57 am #189313

    good luck regardless , wish you the best

    November 15, 2018 at 5:40 pm #189445

    Buy her a bagel