Begging for Help.

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Begging for Help.

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    silentsurfer21
    silentsurfer21
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    April 13, 2018 at 11:21 am #170471
    Begging for Help.

    So, i’ve been with my ex-girlfriend for 5 years. At the root of everything, we had a really good, strong and loving relationship. Because I am now 21 (so we started being together when I was 16), I was quite naive about certain aspects of having a relationship. There were certain aspects of the relationship I constantly said I would change and didn’t. In my first year of university i broke up with her for two weeks because I thought it was a bad idea (even though we were in the same university). Anyway, basically, i kept saying i would change and never did. I took her for granted. She got frustrated with me one night and spilled hot tea on me. So I said we had to break up because that was too far for it to get to that stage. But i realised quickly that i can’t live without her… it’s been a month and I am not seeing a light at the end of the tunnel. I told her how i feel and she agreed to one date. What sorts of questions should I ask her on the date? Or what should we talk about?

    trapir97
    trapir97
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    April 14, 2018 at 2:08 pm #170555

    This relationship sounds toxic. Do not go back to it.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
    Participant
    April 15, 2018 at 1:34 am #170583

    In all honesty very few people especially these days finds their “soulmate” at age 16. Odds are you two were going to eventually breakup.
    Most young people pursue relationships before figuring out who (they) are let alone know what they need in a mate for life.
    The teens and 20s for most people is about growing, learning, and evolving. Very few guys in your age range are ready to settle down.
    Right now the top focus for both of you should be getting your degrees and setting yourselves up for establishing your careers.

    You said: “But i realised quickly that i can’t live without her.” Truth is you lived most of your life without her!
    Out of the 21 years you’ve been on this planet you have only known her for 5 years of it.
    Movies and romance novels convince us love is suppose to be messy and full of drama.
    You also said: “I constantly said I would change and didn’t.”
    If you have to “change” to make a relationship “work” there’s a good chance you’re with the (wrong person).

    Arthus4
    Arthus4
    Participant
    April 17, 2018 at 12:04 am #170847

    Good advice Dashingscorpio.

    jetli123
    jetli123
    Participant
    April 18, 2018 at 12:48 am #170924

    Second that to Dashing scorpio