Being judged right away, living with a disability


Being judged right away, living with a disability

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    April 8, 2019 at 1:11 am #198261
    Being judged right away, living with a disability

    Professional advice is needed.
    Do research about “dating an autistic woman” and people who lived in foster care homes (hard to open up because of that)

    Meet with a guy on the first date, went well, I felt a connection. Interests the same, good values, same interest in job related. You get the idea.
    But here is the part most guys don’t know, I have Mild Autism. I was born with it, there is no ultimate cure.
    After the date, I recieve a text in short, “I see a friend, I feel no connection.”
    People who have Mild Autism struggle sending out body cues to make a “connection”.
    I feel like I was discriminated for having Autism (a spectrum). However I did tell the guy about it afterwards his text and no reply.
    In my point of view, I felt he judged me too quickly and didn’t give me a chance for the 2nd or 3rd date to determine if there was a connection.
    Now, in very friendly advice, do you think he should’ve kept an open mind of a possibility there could be a connection? Not love, just sparking.

    April 15, 2019 at 1:04 pm #198641

    You said: ” most guys don’t know, I have Mild Autism.” and ” I did tell the guy about it {afterwards} ….”
    By your own admission he rejected you BEFORE he (knew) about your Autism!
    Everyone gets rejected! (And) Everyone rejects other people!
    No one says “yes” to any and every person.

    If there is no chemistry/physical attraction, or if one person didn’t have a great time there will not be a {second date}.
    Men usually pay for dates. Not many guys would want to invest time/money on a so-so date.

    It’s human nature to believe if you didn’t have a certain: disability, skin color, or you were a different height/weight…etc
    No matter who you are or what you look like there are going to be people who don’t see (you) as being “the one”!
    That’s life!

    In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection just means: Next!

    You might want to consider joining a niche dating site specifically for highly functional special needs people.
    SpectrumSingles dot com and AutisticDating dot net may provide you with better prospects.

    June 17, 2019 at 8:21 am #202199

    yeah good point
    i was going to say there should be online dating sites specifically for autism or other disabilities