bicurious & head over heels yoga teacher- but is she gay? help me

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bicurious & head over heels yoga teacher- but is she gay? help me

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    whitewave90
    whitewave90
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    March 28, 2019 at 12:49 pm #197858
    bicurious & head over heels yoga teacher- but is she gay? help me

    Ok, so I’ve always thought myself as bi-curious, watched lesbian porn ect. But neve had a relationship with a girl or an ‘encounter’ that wasn’t on a night out. Right, now I go to a gym class with this woman every week, I really really like her. I’ve not felt this way about someone for a long time. I think she likes me too but im not sure if i’m reading too much into things and also as its a sortof teacher-student relationship in the gym I don’t want to do anything to make anyone awkward.

    I don’t know if she’s gay or straight or bi, she’s got 3 kids, but has been saying stuff recently like there’s no right or wrong way, and also making up names for gym moves like ‘rainbow arms’ like I don’t know if she’s hinting or im just reading too much into this.

    It’s difficult cus im quite shy and have zero experience figuring this all out with another woman, last week she told me my hair was nice and I was kicking myself all week for not complimenting her back. which I did today, in a jumbled u

    whitewave90
    whitewave90
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    March 28, 2019 at 12:50 pm #197859

    in a jumbled up stuttering bloody mess. I’ve got her phone number, but most of the people in her class have got her no. as she sends us pics of our poses.
    Once I mentioned iwas going to do something and she said ‘oh I’d like to come with you’ when I got back to her about it she seemed genuinely sorry but she was going on a last minute holiday (I think with her kids). and the next one of these im going to invite her to is in like 7 weeks.
    I’m comfortable in my skin, and am sure if we got together it’d all be fine, im not worried about any of that aspect of stuff like sex. cus if she is experienced she’s absolutely lovely and if she isn’t we’d have to figure it out together.
    It’s just I’m not great socially at the best of times. Also ive been going to her classes for about 6months, in the last 3 weeks she’s started to give ALL of us massages at on the backs of our necks. but I cant see how she’s doing it to other people to see if its the same, but it feels more sensual than I would do i

    whitewave90
    whitewave90
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    March 28, 2019 at 2:03 pm #197860

    more sensual than I would do it to everyone in the class, if that makes sense? I was going to ask her to go to the cinema with me today, bt I forgot and she always rushes off at the end cus the car park ticket only lasts so long. I just want to be able to tell if she does like me for a start, and if there’s any like subtle things I can do to let her know that I like her. and how to move things forward, im to shy to ask straight out if she’s gay or bi, and anyway usually there’s a few other people around listening.
    Im just afraid to ask her out 1 on 1 and either get rejected, or then find out that she doesn’t like me that way. HOW do you lesbians do this its so hard!
    I’d be really grateful for any advice or insight, I really like her, I cant stop thinking about her. ive not felt this way since I was 17, im 28 now. to be honest its doing my head in lol, I need to know one way or the other cus I keep daydreaming about her
    Thank you to anyone that answers, PLEASE give me your wisdom x

    whitewave90
    whitewave90
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    March 28, 2019 at 2:03 pm #197864

    any advice please x

    whitewave90
    whitewave90
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    March 29, 2019 at 2:10 pm #197927

    For anyone who’s interested, ive write this up on my phone but don’t know whether to send:

    Hi X, hope you had a nice weekend. Just thought i’d let you know that i’m pretty sure 2 new ppl from my coffee group r coming 2 yoga on thursday. Apparently one woman has done yoga for a few years but her other class is a bit big for her. So I thought i’d arrive a bit early and hunt some extra chairs down. Also im going to try and watch that new horror film ‘us’ b4 cinema stops showing it. I dont know if you like horror’s or have any time available, but let me know if you want 2 c it and we could set something up? Have a good week, Y xx btw e-mail is XYZ @ hotmail.co.uk

    Any input appreciated, I think its ambiguous enough not to be too forward, but if she is sending vibes she’d pick up on it?
    I really don’t know if she’d like this film
    & also, she told me she’s having babysitter problems,so I don’t know if she says she cant find a babysitter, should I take her word for it?

    please give advice x

    whitewave90
    whitewave90
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    March 30, 2019 at 9:03 am #197950

    I’ve just realised the pun in my title- head over heels for yoga teacher. lol.
    I’m finding the lack of advice really unhelpful.
    err, btw I’ve got bipolar & have just came out a difficult straight relationship, so for one reasn and another I’ve got no friends outside my mental health circle of friends who I can talk to about this.
    The only shit I’ve found online is about fucking spotting girls with short hair tom-boys, which I think can be quite a stereotype, that and trimmed fingernails. lol.
    The thing is if i’m wrong about this, and make it so awkward I cant go to this mental health yoga grup anymore, that wont just upset me, but will actually be really bad 4 my mental health 🙁 I’m shy at the best of times.
    I just cant figure if she likes ‘likes’ me & if she isn’t super experienced gay it myt be difficult 4 her to make an obvious move too.

    as I said you guys & gals are useless at giving advice. im just using this 4 a diary for now to chronicle how this goes.

    whitewave90
    whitewave90
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    March 31, 2019 at 10:44 am #197961

    I’ve decided, im sending the text this evening after mothers day has ended sort of. don’t want to interrupt it or make it kinda creepy
    advice still appreciated

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    April 1, 2019 at 2:29 pm #198014

    “I don’t know if she’s gay or straight or bi, she’s got 3 kids..”
    “Im just afraid to ask her out 1 on 1 and either get rejected,”

    It’s a shame the world we live in is so cold and cruel that anyone who compliments us is a dating prospect.
    Just because two women are lesbians does not mean they would be attracted to each other.
    If you are afraid of rejection it doesn’t matter if she gay or straight being rejected is always a possibility.

    Another major fact is a single mother with three kids is likely going to need advance notice for dates.
    Generally speaking a movie is not the best (first date) option unless there are plans to have drink or eat afterwards.
    Otherwise you spending two hours in the dark staring at a screen and afterwards trying to figure out how to go out again.
    Ask her out to lunch if her kids are in school fulltime and chat her up about how she got into yoga…etc
    Hopefully you’ll get a better idea as to who she is. You might try looking for clues online.

    whitewave90
    whitewave90
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    April 20, 2019 at 8:18 am #198945

    I didn’t say that any1 who compliments us is a dating prospect.
    I said I liked her, so I complemented her. and I hoped she likes me, and she did compliment me.

    I’m not scared of getting rejected, I wanted to know other people’s thoughts on the situation from the backround info I provided.
    I wanted some kindly advice.

    Why don’t you get off your high horse.

    + We’re going out next Friday.

    carla2019
    carla2019
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    July 24, 2019 at 4:05 am #204244
    Reply To: bicurious & head over heels yoga teacher- but is she gay? help me

    Hi
    How did it go on Friday?