Can't get my best friend to honestly open up about our relationship.

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Can't get my best friend to honestly open up about our relationship.

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    pupcak3
    pupcak3
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    April 28, 2018 at 2:27 pm #171796
    Can't get my best friend to honestly open up about our relationship.

    I’ve been best friends with this person (who for the sake of simplicity we’ll just call a boy named T) for about 4 years now. We’ve always been very physically affectionate and close and even have helped each other out of some serious suicidal periods. We used to live together in college but have since graduated and moved apart for the time being. (we very likely will move somewhere together and be roommates again) The problem is that I can’t figure out what they actually think about me. Pretty early on we had a talk about if us getting sexually involvedwas a good idea, and we agreed that it’s probably not the best idea for us emotionally but there was no mention of a lack of interest. Friends around us always thought we were dating just because of how we get along. But T has been dating this guy for about 2 years now. (we’re bi) but the guy has always been emotionally unavailable and has severely hurt them before cause of it. (hes also horrible about respecting our trans identities

    pupcak3
    pupcak3
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    April 28, 2018 at 2:33 pm #171797

    the big thing is whenever the topic of our relationship came up they’ve alwaysbeen very careful to never actually say what their feelings are for me. We also have a very long history of flirting and they regularly make a point to tease me and make me blush and flustered because they know that that’s a huge turn on for me and they always say i’m cute when i’m like that and i forget how to speak. It’s very clear that they know it’s a sexual/romantic thing for me but they do it anyways despite them saying we’ll never be a thing. And I’ve always been so confused about what to do because I really really want a explicit answer on their feelings for me but it feels wrong to bring it up even tho our relationship is incredibly intimate and open and honest. I just don’t want to ruin our friendship but also i’m the only friend I see them be like this to buy a long shot and i’m just so tired of feeling like there’s something i should know. what do I do?