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    luffbug04
    luffbug04
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    January 3, 2017 at 9:14 pm #121566
    Catching a busy mans interest…

    I met this guy many years ago through mutual friends a few times. Always had a crush on him but never presumed anything. Recently got out of a 4 year relationship and am now 30 which makes me feel incredibly insecure in myself and doubt myself whereas I didn’t use to. So the dating scene feels foreign and totally different to me. Struck up a convo with him on Facebook and we caught up a little back and forth over the past few weeks. We have said we should grab a drink and catch up. He is super busy. He owns a business with his family, is looking for new locations as well as house hunting. Any off timehe has, which isn’t often, he’s always doing things for the above mentioned. He replied all the time, even if it’s a few hours later, asks questions in return, but hasn’t really reached out first. As in it’s always me sending him a text to strike up convo. Being that he’s so busy how do I catch his attention or is that almost impossible right now with all he has going on?

    LeighBurn
    LeighBurn
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    January 4, 2017 at 3:47 pm #121738

    Ask him out on a low key date then you will know if he is interested or not.. Of course be understanding about his busy life and accept you would have to blend in with it…but there are limits to this. There has to be a baseline of attention and quality time. You might find that he is not that happy with his level of busy-ness, and perhaps you could gently point out to him the important things in life and in getting that work-life balance. If it doesn’t work in your favour that’s fine and you move on, there are plenty other blokes out there and you shouldn’t let your rustiness on the dating scene make you settle for a poor deal.

    AcesDJD
    AcesDJD
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    January 8, 2017 at 5:35 am #122150

    Everyone has time at least somewhere in the week. Maybe very rarely I could be too busy for a week (I own my own business as well) but in the end if I claimed I was busy for two whole weeks it would be because of disinterest. He may have friendzoned you because you’ve known him so long. Men do this less often than women do, but sometimes men do it too.

    luffbug04
    luffbug04
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    January 10, 2017 at 10:04 am #122391

    Adam, I’m supposed to just send him a picture, randomly, even though he hasn’t asked for one? Just like “hey here you go” that’s seems a little odd, desperate and like it’ll make me go backwards not forwards…

    mialmagemela
    mialmagemela
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    January 10, 2017 at 11:37 am #122420

    I am old school. I’d say let him make the first move. If he hasn’t yet, move on. I know dating at 30 and older after a breakup can be very hard but I did it and met my now husband. The first thing I did after my breakup was to focus on me and what I liked doing and actually doing it. There is nothing more attractive in a woman than being busy. Make a list of things you love doing and focus on that. At the very least it will take your mind off this and at the very best love will find you while you are busy.

    lovelife888
    lovelife888
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    January 10, 2017 at 4:40 pm #122500

    I say keep the door open and send him a text once a week with something light i.e. something funny you saw on TV etc. Maybe add a comment “I know you’re super busy but lets have a drink soon”… see what he says. Best of luck!

    richiro
    richiro
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    January 18, 2017 at 11:23 pm #123628

    nah you can’t do much more than yo have. that he is asking you questions back means you’ve cuaght his attention as much as you can. be forewarned that this just comes with the territory with entrepreneurs. their livelihood, and thus their lives, are caught up in that business. out of just pure financial survival they must be thinking business 24/7.

    my best friend in SF started a small vape shop. its a small business.. but.. it been intersing to see how over 1 yr now (maybe 2) — not the only thing that comes out of his mouth is business related. its just the way it is and is why his business is successful.

    so.. this comes with a warning label: if you need more than this, expect more – then yo umight want to move on. As the saying goes.. “the soulmate of an entrepreneur, their #1, will always be their business”. A partner will always have to be and accept being #2.

    sorry.

    MrsZitaMansour
    MrsZitaMansour
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    October 5, 2017 at 5:54 am #151533

    I have a good taste for life, my dear) And all this I ready to sh… Continue Reading
    I’ve been dating this guy for a little over two years. During the time we both were studying for the bar, we were on a break. He slept with his ex-fiancee once, and now she’s pregnant. I’m devastated and broken. I feel like a part of me has died. He’s the only guy I’ve ever loved. I put so much into this relationship

    wildkatky
    wildkatky
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    October 6, 2017 at 3:40 am #151691
    Reply To: Catching a busy mans interest…

    You could casually mention getting together sometime, but if he isn’t going to be mutually interested then let it go. That doesn’t mean that you can’t be the one to come up with plans, or that you have to wait on him to come up with an idea – but if you aren’t saying exactly what you want, then you can’t expect him to know exactly what you want. So if you tell him, hey, i’d like for you to take me out sometime, and he still doesn’t consent, it’s time to let go of whatever it is attracting you to him and find someone that would complement you and your life.

    nodatinglife
    nodatinglife
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    November 25, 2017 at 10:50 am #157344
    Reply To: Catching a busy mans interest…

    I don’t think it’s impossible– you could try inviting him to hang out casually (drinks at a bar, get some coffee, etc). If he can’t make it, you can try rescheduling one more time and if he is unavailable, then MOVE ON. There are other guys out there who will be more than willing to go out on a date with you, and no matter how busy they are, will make the time for you.

    uneasy19
    uneasy19
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    February 19, 2018 at 1:33 am #165829
    Reply To: Catching a busy mans interest…

    Dont do this

    andrea_124
    andrea_124
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    July 4, 2018 at 12:35 pm #178662
    Reply To: Catching a busy mans interest…

    Try to make him miss you. Don’t send him a message first. Let him notice that there’s something wrong. If he really likes you then he will put an effort on you and he will notice when something is off. Goodluck 🙂

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    July 4, 2018 at 4:21 pm #178666
    Reply To: Catching a busy mans interest…

    “He……hasn’t really reached out first. As in {it’s always me} sending him a text to strike up convo.”

    Truth is this guy is not romantically interested in you!
    There are guys running multi-billion dollar corporations and even presidents of countries who “find time” for romance.
    My point is no one is so busy they don’t have time to enjoy the company of someone {they’re attracted to}.

    “If you want me in your life, put me there. I shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.” – Anonymous

    The goal is to be with someone where the interest is (mutual).

    Laura23
    Laura23
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    August 24, 2018 at 5:27 am #182498
    Reply To: Catching a busy mans interest…

    Ask him if he would like to hang out sometime and then see what he says.