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Vantage802

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November 29, 2015 at 12:06 pm #89100

Confused

For the past few weeks, I’ve been talking to this girl at my high school(Junior year), and it’s seemed like it has gone very well for the most part. I asked her out, and she said sure. When it came time to go to dinner, she cancelled on me, texting “I’m so sorry I can’t go tonight”, without a reason why or anything. So I answered back “Alright maybe another time”, thinking that there would probably not be another time in reality. Then she texts back, “Yeah that would be great.” I thought this might be just her testing or she actually had something going on, but then when trying to continue a conversation, I have been completely shut down or ignored. Before all this, we were fairly decent friends to an extent, and out of any girl I’ve pursued(even the ones I have dated in the past), I have never felt as confident as I do about her. So I need advice on 1) What’s going on with her, 2) How do I proceed, and 3) Is this a normal thing that people do? Thanks so much.

steph1989

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November 29, 2015 at 4:52 pm #89104

Coming from a female perspective, she might just be overly nice. It’s hard sometimes for woman because our nice vibes and such often come off as flirtatious and often confuse guys thinking we are into them. Of course we are the ones that aren’t bold enough or mean enough to be like look I’m just not that into you, so naturally we say yes to dates. But when the time comes to go a date we get conflicted because we realize we just like you as a friend and don’t want to hurt you or leading you on. Then we stop communicating with you altogether, because we have trapped ourselves in this situation and the only way to get out is to cut communication. I’m sorry about your situation, if you really want a straight up answer I would try and communicate with her face to face and dicuss things, but it sounds to me like you need to move on. There are 10 billion fish in the sea, and I know being in high school it doesn’ seem like there are many fish, but you will find someone, good luck 🙂

carrasr

Participant

November 30, 2015 at 5:02 pm #89136

move on..

vptran31

Participant

December 2, 2015 at 5:44 am #89233

Yea she’s giving u the cold shoulder. Canceling a first date is only excusable if the person goes to great lengths to make it up to you. Even if she is interested in you, it’s not worth it

alyort44

Participant

December 2, 2015 at 11:04 am #89268

unfortunately it sounds like she has friend zoned you. she is being nice to only keep your friendship b.c she likes you as a person. but anything romantic she is not interested in.