Confused

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Confused

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    SarahB
    SarahB
    Participant
    March 20, 2018 at 4:16 pm #167942
    Confused

    I’m a 30 year old woman who has an established career and recently purchased my first home. I met a 30 year old guy through online dating. We really hit it off and things progressed quickly. I fell for him for sure. Then he informed me that he wasn’t looking for anything serious as he is living with his parents at the moment and was working a job that didn’t provide much income. He also said he wasn’t great with relationships. I was understanding and it kind of turned into a hook up thing for the last 5 months. About a month ago things changed and he got very quiet and wasn’t his usual self. Then a few weeks ago he told me he met someone and is in a relationship. After some online digging I discovered she is 23 and lives over an hour away from him. She too stil lives at home. He has texted me and said he doesn’t know what he is doing. He recently lost his job and reached out to me as well. I just don’t get why I wasn’t good enough? What is he thinking?

    SarahB
    SarahB
    Participant
    March 20, 2018 at 4:22 pm #167943

    I guess what hurts me the most is that we had such a strong bond. We would talk everyday. And now it’s just nothing hardly at all. I don’t get what I did wrong. I tried to be so supportive and nice to him.

    Anonymous
    Anonymous
    March 20, 2018 at 5:59 pm #167963

    I think he maybe thought you were too good. You have just purchased your own home and are very independant. He might feel inferior living with his parents and with a lesser job. Maybe that’s why he found some other woman?

    Anonymous
    Anonymous
    March 20, 2018 at 6:02 pm #167964

    I found myself in a similar situation to him… And that’s the feelings I got.

    SarahB
    SarahB
    Participant
    March 21, 2018 at 8:40 am #167969

    Possibly, but I hope that isn’t the case. And why still message me if he is with someone else? Makes me think he has some
    Feelings towards me and is just confused maybe? I don’t know.

    Anonymous
    Anonymous
    March 22, 2018 at 8:54 am #168031

    he does sound confused, i think he still cares/misses you, but just feels inferior.

    mickey9694
    mickey9694
    Participant
    March 22, 2018 at 2:45 pm #168168

    to me, he sounds confused

    Gemologist
    Gemologist
    Participant
    March 22, 2018 at 5:57 pm #168219

    He isn’t. The real question is whether you consider him worth the effort of waiting until he grows up.

    jtb333
    jtb333
    Participant
    March 23, 2018 at 3:31 am #168225

    He is confused on what he wants to do. It sounds like he genuinely likes you but may not be ready for a serious relationship that you could be providing him. Would sooner take someone younger with less responsibilities. In my opinion

    SarahB
    SarahB
    Participant
    March 23, 2018 at 5:04 am #168231
    Reply To: Confused

    Yea that could be true. It’s really too bad cause I really liked him and we always had so much fun together. Don’t know if it’s even worth bringing it up to him st this point…don’t want to make things worse or make it seem like I’m not respectful of his relationship I guess.

    Anonymous
    Anonymous
    March 23, 2018 at 10:25 am #168264
    Reply To: Confused

    Yea, I agree with you, Most people ready for a serious relationship that you could be providing him

    pdxgirl80
    pdxgirl80
    Participant
    March 23, 2018 at 5:41 pm #168306
    Reply To: Confused

    Maybe he was intimidated by you. I solidly believe If men are interested they’ll be back. Easier advice to give than follow

    SarahB
    SarahB
    Participant
    March 23, 2018 at 6:28 pm #168309
    Reply To: Confused

    Yea I guess there really isn’t much else for me to do….just wait and see what happens 😕

    Oleg
    Oleg
    Participant
    March 25, 2018 at 6:05 am #168340
    Reply To: Confused

    do not worry everything will be fine

    Nicky
    Nicky
    Participant
    March 26, 2018 at 3:06 am #168369
    Reply To: Confused

    He’s just really confused and insecure, I’m sorry you have to deal with someone like that, I’d say just move on and keep in contact if you really want but don’t fall again, get over him

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