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    June 3, 2018 at 5:48 pm #176007

    I started texting and talking to a female for the last two months with great success.We have good,communicat but our lifestyles were different for instance I have been married for 17 and lost my wife two years ago in a car accident.She had sex at 5 and had many sex partners but never told by her She never made love before.Mom she loved her so she realized she never been in love.She was treated badly by her mom. I got her to slow down and resist merging since I am conventional and like to move slowly.She is ADHD and told me she love the slow moving.Well, I have a roommate and she flipped when she found out she was a lesbian. She is a friend and I’ve known her with my wife and when she had a husband. The roommate and I never been romantic and never will be. We are not each other’s type. Well when my new friend found out she said she would call and talk later and she had not in two days. I texted her two days ago asking for herto tell me how she felt. What do you think? What should I do?

    June 16, 2018 at 2:17 pm #177223

    “…our lifestyles were different…”
    “She had sex at 5 and had many sex partners”
    “She was treated badly by her mom.”
    “She is ADHD”
    ” I have a roommate and {she flipped} when she found out she was a lesbian”
    “she said she would call and talk later and she had not in two days.”

    Maybe it’s just me… but she doesn’t really sound like relationship material.
    Right now you should be in the “infatuation phase” with one another.
    It sounds like there are too many obstacles, too much baggage, and potential land mines.

    Resist the notion of becoming a rescuer or therapist.
    The goal is to find someone who already is the kind of person you want to be with.
    Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine.
    Each of us is entitled to have our own boundaries and “deal breakers”.
    If having a lesbian roommate is hers then so be it. If I were you her having ADHD would have been enough for me!