Dating a girl way out my league

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Dating a girl way out my league

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    HelpNeeded123
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    November 9, 2018 at 5:25 am #189065
    Dating a girl way out my league

    Bit of advice needed, met this girl through a dating app (both in are late 20’s). We have been on 5 dates in total but neither of us have made a move, at the end of each date we have always hugged but that is literally as far as it goes. Regarding the 5 dates they included; Dinner, Bowling, Lunch, Drinks & home cooked meal.

    My biggest issue is that I have always seen her as way out of my league, she is by far the best-looking girl that I have dated which has caused me to almost hold off from making a move due to the fear of making a mistake and pushing her away. With each date the conversation has flown well and has never felt awkward & always managed to make each other laugh. The conversation offline however can sometimes feel a bit slower.

    For the next date I have decided on a trip to London: Dinner, Comedy show, followed by a drink or two at a roof top bar. My question is I want to make a move to ensure that she knows I am interested but I do not want to make things awkward. Any a

    HelpNeeded123
    HelpNeeded123
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    November 9, 2018 at 5:25 am #189066

    Any advice is welcomed, thank you in advance.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    November 11, 2018 at 12:47 pm #189181

    “I want to make a move to ensure that she knows I am interested but I do not want to make things awkward.”
    It’s thoughts like that put guys in the “friend zone”.
    The longer you go without making a move the odds increase you will be seen as a “platonic friend”.

    During your dates and even phone calls there should have been laughter, flirtatious banter, and maybe a little sexual innuendo.
    It’s also not uncommon to greet with a kiss, to hold hands while walking, and a little incidental touching

    Truth is you should have leaned in of good-night kiss at the conclusion of the first or second date!

    You need to get outside of your own head and stop acting like she is out of your league.
    As far as (she) knows all of the girls you have dated have been attractive!
    Women find confidence to be sexy. She is either into you or not.
    The only way to find out is by making a move. Rejection saves time and money.

    I would not do the extravagant trip to London/show/drinks without having kissed her.

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    Mike11
    Mike11
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    November 11, 2018 at 2:39 pm #189186

    Your problem is in the title of this post. If you think she is out of your league then things may not work because of how YOU feel about the situation. If she really was out of your league then she wouldn’t want anything more than friendship from you no matter what you do, so if you finally try to make a move after the 5 dates you’ve been on then you’ll get your answer. If she turns you away then maybe it’s best that you tell her how you really feel, and if she doesn’t show interest then maybe you should just continue being friends.

    BobbyCA007
    BobbyCA007
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    November 24, 2018 at 9:51 pm #189762

    You could tell her how you feel.
    Tell her that you believe that she is out of your league and give her reasons why.

    animainloves
    animainloves
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    November 26, 2018 at 10:33 am #189822

    Ok like someone has said before, you shouldn’t think that someone is out of your league. Putting someone on a pedastal is the worst thing you could possibly do. Also, if she thought she was out of your league she wouldn’t waste her time with you either.
    People are people, regardless of their social status and positions. At the end of the day, she put in work to look like that, do you think she just woke up like that? Nope, she put effort in, she did her hair, her make, chose a good outfit, perhaps slaves away in the gym to have the desired body etc… Do not take the humanity from her either, she is human, she has her bad hair days and bad skin days with the odd break outs.
    Botton line is, she chose you, and don’t ruin it by thinking high and mighty of her, enjoy it. Have fun. Live in the moment. No worries, no stress.

    Datinghard
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    November 26, 2018 at 7:59 pm #189879

    Well 5 dates show that she’s interested. Have you given her any gifts? If not try flowers to make her think of you romantically. Also tell her how beautiful, funny, and smart she is. I hope there is a connection beyond physically.
    Touch her throughout the date to see how comfortable she is around you. Put your arm around her waist, grab her hand, look into her eyes. You don’t have to do those things simultaneously, but it’s a good start.
    At the end of the date DO NOT HUG HER. Pull her close and tell her you really like her. Then SLOWLY go in for the kiss. She will either pull back or lean in…
    5 dates in tells me she gonna lean in

    fyburone
    fyburone
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    November 27, 2018 at 10:36 pm #190020

    You need to think she’s in your league.

    johnny97
    johnny97
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    November 28, 2018 at 8:55 am #190041

    Well 5 dates show that she’s interested. Have you given her any gifts? If not try flowers to make her think of you romantically. Also tell her how beautiful, funny, and smart she is. I hope there is a connection beyond physically.
    Touch her throughout the date to see how comfortable she is around you. Put your arm around her waist, grab her hand, look into her eyes. You don’t have to do those things simultaneously, but it’s a good start.
    At the end of the date DO NOT HUG HER. Pull her close and tell her you really like her. Then SLOWLY go in for the kiss. She will either pull back or lean in…
    5 dates in tells me she gonna lean in

    I totally agree with this comment above. You have been on 5 dates so far, from my own experience, 5 dates don’t mean she wants you to be just her “friend”, she actually enjoys it. You should go for a kiss

    caroline3000
    caroline3000
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    November 29, 2018 at 2:49 pm #190271
    Reply To: Dating a girl way out my league

    I have been on the other side of the field and thought a guy I once dated was out of my league because he was athletic and performed some sports I couldn’t(mainly endurance sports) I assumed he wanted women who could at least keep up with him. But I gave myself a break and was myself and things were easier. I may not be the fastest runner but I no longer think he want accept me for not being that.

    coolaij
    coolaij
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    November 29, 2018 at 11:05 pm #190287
    Reply To: Dating a girl way out my league

    You need to understand a lot to date a out of your league girl

    December 2, 2018 at 5:33 pm #190405
    Reply To: Dating a girl way out my league

    Make sure that she sees you as special. Show her that you are more than your looks

    CyphorX
    CyphorX
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    December 2, 2018 at 8:16 pm #190410
    Reply To: Dating a girl way out my league

    Just don’t let her know she is out of your league.

    Ukulele
    Ukulele
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    December 3, 2018 at 4:40 am #190412
    Reply To: Dating a girl way out my league

    Hi
    Tune down the romance. Make her confused, don’t be that much available. You want to make a move to “insure”, that she is interested? Well, she already knows that. Work on your issue about her being out of your league. If you keep that mindset up, she will be, and girls don’t want lower social status men next to them. This mindset makes you nervous and anxyous. And you do not need to go to London. Randomly kiss her with conficende and just go on the next level.