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KobrunParticipantMay 13, 2014 at 7:46 pm #52797
I know this is probably a pretty basic question but I’m new to this on-line dating game. Is it OK to contact more than one woman at a time (I’m talking about a first e-mail) or is that frowned upon. It feels like I should wait a few days to see if she’ll respond before contacting another but, if it is not considered to be improper, I’d prefer to send 2 or 3 and see what happens. Wow, dating was not this hard when I was younger.
MrSSamsungParticipantNovember 13, 2014 at 6:32 pm #67561
… contact women and then forget about them unless they respond. Move on. I would say don’t do what some men do and just spam women with cut and paste messages either. That will get you very little… but write a short, well thought out message and I’d say do that to one or two a day/night, forget them and write another the next day. Don’t get hung up on whether she responds, just see writing messages as a bit of a hobby. Eventually if you strike a chord with someone, you’ll get replies that way (if you haven’t already).
single2787ParticipantNovember 15, 2014 at 10:09 pm #67624
Contact as many as long as they respond. Step back when you oficcially start to see someone.
ndadviceParticipantNovember 17, 2014 at 8:44 am #67659
My opinion is its ok to contact as many as you want, and even go on as many first dates/meetings as you want. But if it goes well enough for a second date then stick with just one. I think everyone does it differently though
victoriyaParticipantNovember 18, 2014 at 5:30 am #67710
my suggustion is u can contact as many as you want.
MrSSamsungParticipantNovember 18, 2014 at 4:09 pm #67736
Your profile will do all the work, and your messages just have to be short simple openers with minimal effort… in fact it’s important it is minimal effort because women don’t respond too well to anything more in a first message.
The other thing is if you are not getting a good response rate and you try to up your numbers of messages sent to increase the odds, it will very likely make you feel really fed up and likely to quit the whole thing.
My advice: write an excellent profile and write one or two messages to women you’ve selectively chosen as likely candidates… once a night. That way, if you do have a poor response rate, it will not crush your resolve, as you wont feel like you’ve put that much time into it. But, if you’ve got a good profile, you’ll likely get enough of a response rate for you to get dates… the name of the game.
I initially started out very bad on there, improved massively over time. That is what I learnt.
ckmmepdParticipantNovember 21, 2014 at 7:28 pm #67951
Message as many as you’d like, just send an actual original message not one of those canned ones.
AnonymousNovember 29, 2014 at 12:22 pm #68321
Contact as many as you want, but make sure that your messages aren’t form letters and actually address some unique point made in the profile.
elderwaistParticipantDecember 11, 2014 at 9:35 am #69009
as many as you can!
steveParticipantDecember 28, 2014 at 2:05 pm #69671
Take your time …what’s the rush?
katrielParticipantJanuary 21, 2015 at 12:50 pm #71351
looking for a good heart,soul,mind and she has to be jewish and old ways i am not rich or poor looking for some who understand what i am looking for in a person thats how my mother and father told me about life.
ExpatParticipantJanuary 23, 2015 at 12:22 am #71647
I did the online dating a year or two ago, and I contacted a lot of women. I only got to the regular chatting stage with a handful of them. Then I only went on first dates with a fraction of the handful. I met a girl I dated for 2 years through that method.
I will warn you though, once you get to the regular dating part with 1 girl. Deactivate your dating profile, don’t log on the keep checking messages from others. That’s something a lot of online daters get wrong. They’ll keep checking their messages and chatting with women when they’ve been dating someone exclusively. Women do it too.
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