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madmad99ParticipantJune 17, 2017 at 7:53 am #139808
i was in a 3 year relationship, he was my first boyfriend and I’ve just started dating after 3.5 years. i knew this guy some how from college and he was in 7 year relationship and he broke up last year and he said he was alone for a year. we talked and he seem so interested in me and then we decide to meet, he was happy after first date and after that we got closer and in 3rd date we had sex and it was very good to me and apparently he enjoyed our intimacy, we had sex one more time and after that he barely talked to me and he said he wasn’t feeling to well. i didn’t text him anymore but just ask how is he and he said not too good and didn’t answer me anymore. i can see he’s online but he’s not talking to me, i really like this guy and he treated me well. but he’s not talking to me and doesn’t say anything to meet again. i should forget him? how i can change this situation?
madmad99ParticipantJune 17, 2017 at 7:57 am #139809
i’m ok in general, but when i see he doesn’t want to talk to me it’s breaking my heart and i get upset. i don’t know what to do.
ZYParticipantJune 18, 2017 at 5:04 pm #139840
I’m sorry, what you are going through is really tough.
To me it seems like since he is not replying there is not much you can do. He probably wasn’t completely over his ex yet. My bf didn’t date anyone for 5 years after he split up from his ex… So some guys take a really long time to recover.
For you though, I think it’s best to move on. As hard it is to do, it will be better in the long term for you. Because he probably won’t be ready any time soon, and if there is any chance that his gf will come back even for a 1 date he will be hoping all around her.
If you want to help him, you still can be his friend but don’t have sex with him.
ECatParticipantJune 20, 2017 at 12:23 pm #140029
I think you should give him space, and let him come to you. Guys are slower at processing feelings than women. It sucks but if he was truly into you he will come back! Let it be for now.
lovie4youParticipantJune 20, 2017 at 1:46 pm #140060
Zy And ECat are absolutely right. If I were in your shoes I would tell myself the guy is nothing but an asshole. You deserve better. We all can see he was alone for a year he used you to dump his load. He’s online to use some other poor girl. There is a lot of men out there probably a lot better than he will ever be. Do what Zy said you can be friends with him but do not give him sex unless you don’t mind being used.
comperkoParticipantJune 20, 2017 at 6:07 pm #140130
Seems like you were just a rebound after his ex.Its best to just move on.
adamrsmith120ParticipantJune 20, 2017 at 11:45 pm #140134
It’s hard to forget about guys who treat you really well. It’s hard to move on but you have to do what’s right. You want someone who is going to take care of you and treat you right. You need someone who’s going to be there for you when times get hard. It doesn’t sound like this is the person for you. It’s best to move on from this one.
Louie97ParticipantJune 21, 2017 at 7:55 pm #140223
I agree with Lovie4you. He basically used you sexually and will continue to do so if you entertain him. And his lame lie about “not feeling well” is the equivalent of him saying “yeah, I slept with you to get my fill and now I want nothing to do with you”. A year isn’t enough for a guy, let alone anyone to heal from a committed 7 year relationship. It’s humanly impossible.
peachesParticipantJune 22, 2017 at 4:25 am #140231
These men at times can really leave you in a confused space. i suggest chat to him, maybe
sammy_reinkeParticipantJune 27, 2017 at 4:27 am #140672
i was with a guy for 3 years and its only been a year, and everytime i get too close to a guy i freeze up like a deer in headlights and the i bolt. maybe he’s scared, its great to pretend you’re okay and moved on for a while, until reality hits. maybe just send him a message and ask him for a proper explanation? sometimes you just have to take it for what it is, and just enjoy the experiences while they last xx
SkydancerParticipantJune 27, 2017 at 7:06 am #140675
I think this guy just wanted sex…I have been there and it feels absolutely terrible, but the healthiest thing for you is to move on. Just to share you my story, I was also dating that guy and even after we had sex, we would occasionally chat and I would feel nice, but to him (as I realised later) it was just a way to keep me “interested” so that he could have sex with me whenever he wanted. Fuck these men. You don’t need that in your life, if you’re looking for something different.
kindestlassParticipantJune 28, 2017 at 4:36 pm #140906
What a tough situation you are! I think you should keep going on with your life. Try making a list what attracts you the most about this guy and see if iit’s worth waiting for him, but don’t wait for too long.
ladgr14ParticipantJuly 1, 2017 at 1:19 am #141214
Time to move on
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