Delicate situation: Interested in an older co-worker


Delicate situation: Interested in an older co-worker

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    May 26, 2014 at 1:35 pm #53737
    Delicate situation: Interested in an older co-worker

    I am temporarily working for a company with an older coworker. I am 22 and he is 40. He is unmarried, without kids.

    I’m sure I’m over analyzing this, but I would like to determine whether he has interest in me so I can decide if I want to pursue this. I’m well aware this probably wouldn’t be a long term deal, but I enjoy his company and feel comfortable with him.

    Things I have noticed:
    -He regularly sits in the lab I work in, not in his cube.
    -We joke around quite a bit and he has playfully bumped me with his hand
    -He brags about me to other people while I’m in the room (surviving a “boys” weekend and some work I have done)
    -He always tries to help me (holding doors, offering to carry stuff, etc.)
    -He does make mild sexual jokes occasionally (outside the workplace), not when we are alone though
    -I have noticed some intense eye contact, and he tends to look quickly between my two eyes

    May 26, 2014 at 1:38 pm #53738

    -I was sitting at a table with him and another person and even when he was talking to her his body was facing me with a leg extended out towards me
    -Teases me

    Again, I’m sure I am reading into this too much. Is there a way I can determine one way or the other how he feels towards me? I can’t tell if he sees me as a child, a woman or a guy. I have gone out to bars with him and some other guys from work. He also looks at me when he says something funny, not sure if he is checking to see if I laugh or not.

    I want to figure this out one way or another, so any advice is appreciated.